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    tlicious is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default She asks "do I mean something to you?"

    So I have been dating this girl for about 6 weeks. She is very nice and cute and I enjoy meeting her to hang out, have sex and so on but I am not excactly madly in love with her. I enjoy being single, doing whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it.

    I have been sensing for a while that she is after something more but she hadn't brought it up with me but tonight she drunk dialed me asking me if "she means something to me or if we are just having sex?". I really didn't know what to say since things are not that simple so I just told her to call me tomorrow when she has sobered up without answering her question.
    I like how things have been between us up to this point but I guess this kind of thing is kind of inevitable, or is it?

    Has someone been in a similar situation and do you have any tips on how to proceed with this?

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    Default Re: She asks "do I mean something to you?"

    I had a similar situation, where we were spending good time with the girl, however I did not let my true intentions be known. The girl on the other side started felling the girlfriend-boyfriend relationship, because I guess we were texting and seeing each other a bit too often.

    It all ended up in a painful break-up (for the girl). So my advice would be to let her know the truth, and if she's fine with it - even better, otherwise at least your conscience is clean.

    After all we're not meant to break hearts...

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    Default Re: She asks "do I mean something to you?"

    Honesty is the best policy man. Just be open. If she doesn't accept the frame, that's ok, you guys had to move on sooner or later, if she does accept it, you're going to keep a friend and sooner or later you'll still have to move on. Lying or hiding your intentions aren't healthy for anyone, nor is it alpha. Very low status, so just be honest with your feelings homie.
    Caveat: Just because I feel a certain way about my journey doesn't mean you should feel the same about yours.

    If you can't say that you would rather die than not do it; you don't want it bad enough.

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    Default Re: She asks "do I mean something to you?"

    Echo'ing the statements above.

    Tell her dude. Imagine you wanted the relationship and she didn't but she lied just to keep farking you for a little longer. So don't do it to her.

    Don't fear the loss. You're only *ever* a sarging session away from a plethora of SHB. If she split because she wants more and it's not on offer, it's her loss. And she'd be doing *you* a favour by freeing you up to pickup HB's who *are* completely game for some NSA.

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    tlicious is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: She asks "do I mean something to you?"

    Thank you guys for the good advice!
    I agree, honesty is very important. She called me back and I told her that I didn't want to talk about these kind of things over the phone and she agreed so I scheduled to meet her two days later. We met up and went for a walk with her dog (great excuse to fark in the wild) and grabbed a bite to eat and went to her place.
    She didn't bring the question up until after sex and I told her that I am not looking for a relationship right now and she said that she isn't neither. I told her that the only thing I can promise her is that I will be completely honest with her. I think I might have sugar coated it a bit to much, maybe I should have underlined it more that she should absolutely not be expecting me to be any kind of boyfriend.


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