This girl I've known for a few weeks now. She has a boyfriend, and seems to be a good relationship. I have no intentions of breaking them up, but that doesn't stop me from forming a platonic relationship with her. She knows that I exude confidence, but at the same time I've shown humility and sensibility.
We've been texting back and forth recently. In fact, it was her giving me her number when I didn't even ask for it . I did bait her into giving me her number, though that's a story for another time.
I think for this specific girl, I've built up enough of a frame to where even if I come of as super cocky, it fits my frame, and she'll see it as jest, rather than be turned off by it. But for the sake of argument, would this text exchange be appropriate for any random girl, or would it come off as too cocky?
So the premise of this text exchange is as followed. The girl and I went to get Vietnamese pho noodle soup for lunch on Friday. Just the two of us. When we came back to work, we met Seth in the parking lot. Seth has a girlfriend and knows she has a boyfriend. But Seth is pretty AFC and is also friends with her. He works in IT and helps her out a lot. He was a bit sick so she gave him her leftover pho. Rather shamelessly might I add, told him she bought it just for him. She also had lend out her cup to him, which she meant to get back from him that day.
(After she had left work)
Her: I forgot my cup
Me: I had Seth wash, gift-wrap, and deliver it right to your desk ready for you Monday morning when you come in. Tipping would be a desired gesture here.
(No response from her for a day, below is pretty much rapid fire)
Her: He was still there?
(My last message was kinda late in the day)
Me: It ain't easy cleaning your stuff
Her: Why? It's just a cup.
Me: Ha don't try to get out of tipping. Which you have been doing so every time IT helps you right?
Her: That's what the soup was for. Duh!
Me: Yes! I'm gonna try that next time, just leave my to go as tip for the waiter.
Her: Your to go?
Me: Takeout, leftovers, scraps
(Didn't like my response here, too direct, so I added this: )
Me: Come to think of it I did leave some leftover pho for our waiter. And I still gave him a monetary tip. On top of that service was slow. I'm such a great person.
Her: Whatever makes you feel better. Was that your good deed of the day?
Me: Just one good deed a day? Every action I perform is a good deed.
So at the end there I felt it may have gotten a bit too cocky. I was just having too much fun . Also I consciously didn't really want to go on with the rapid fire texting for the moment. So my last text I purposely made it one where the girl didn't need to respond to.
But overall, how does The Vibe of that exchange feel to everyone? A bit too cocky, especially if the girl doesn't know you well enough to know it fits in your frame?