Hi there I am 22. Currently i have friend with benefits which i got bored, so i started to avoid her for last few weeks now.
Its kinda Long post but i wanted to cover most of the stuff
Now little bit about my self I am a kind guy(holding door, making people feel comfortable, lets say gentleman). I am good looking guy lets say from 1-10 i give my self 8, i get attention from other girls. Now i am a bit searching(found a girl but later on that problem) for girl that i can actually keep since i get bored very fast, and i found some of them.
I met a girl 3months ago in a party trough my friend since they know each other long time, i liked her from the start but i got drunk so i was not so focused on her.
Now for new years eve we meet again(girl that i liked) in a party also again like last time i was high, but i was in there company and we danced had fun laughing,in between she was toying with some guys flirting but just for fun as i saw it.I didnt pull any moves on the girl but me and friend ended up sleeping in her apartment. guess she figured out i like her. Few days later she organised with my friend who met us for a coffee friend bailed but i took the phone number and we met for coffee. This 2.5h passed very very fast we talked had a really good time there was some IOIs so nothing happened that day but she "we have to go and drink something soon". Two days from last meeting i call her as surprise and ask her to go out with me for a drink but she had something obligation with her pet(witch i checked out later was true) but i didnt let it slide and send her message 1h later
"I would like to see you i am near your apartment can i pass by?"
She: "Sure "
So i passed by bring couple of somersbys again we talked laughed there was some signals but i was not sure (since i knew she have a boyfriend) there was no situation to close the kiss, but there was a lot of iois so time passed it was late already i sad i need to go so i fu$ked my self as i usually do when i really like the girl i say the truth that "i like her and would like to spent time with here and that she is giving me signals to kiss her and not."
she sad " No I have a bf" with a smile, as i approached to kiss her on the cheek i bet she wanted me to kiss her on the lips somehow deep inside i saw it on her that it was some kind of test. and ofcorse i wussied out kissed her on the cheek.
I sent her message like "I am laughing at my self now, but all in all was a great night"
she: "I was just writing you a message, I had nice time also, you are great and dont need to laugh at your self, now its passing trough my head that you didnt know that i had bf or you knew :P"
need help i find my self when i play the game and set some things in motion my interest with girl just drops rapidly so thats why i when i like some girl and thats not so often i tell the truth if the kiss dont happen.
Any idea how to go from here?
My idea was wait a day to pass so things settle in her head then i send a massage like "how are you doing etc ." and go from there ask her for a going on a drink
Note About her BF: She is with some guy that is from another city but last time they saw each other was when they were together skiing (where they met and were together).(before that she had long distance relationship 2years since she left for another city to go to university) all this info i got from a friend that met us.