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Thread: Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

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    Default Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

    Went on a date with an HB9 last Saturday, things Went well, lots of Kino, kiss closed, told me she wanted to hang out again. Flaked on me Monday for the national championship told me that we could do whatever this weekend. Tried to make plans for tonight or tomorrow and now says she has a friend coming in from out of town, that we can do something Sunday. I want to see this girl again but don't know whether to accept the Sunday offer or what to tell her. Thanks in advance

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    Default Re: Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

    First, gratz k-closing with an HB9.

    However, it seems that those two events she flaked on you for she prioritized over you. Not good. When a girl does that, it sort of reflects the value she placed on you.

    As I told a different guy, if you were some high profile celebrity like Mel Gibson with high value and status, oh, you can be sure she will make time and the national championship and her out of town friend can take a back seat. Not enough attraction? Not enough chemistry? who knows what you could've done better? But k-closing with your HB9 is an accomplishment in itself. So no matter how things pan out, rest well knowing that.

    You dig this chick, I would say accept the Sunday date, but if she flakes again then time to change the game plan. You don't want to come off as always available. Make yourself unavailable, step it up and go out with an HB10.

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    Default Re: Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

    I wouldn't accept, doing so just reinforces that your available at her every whim. Go a few days without contact and see if she hits you up again, if not then try and schedule a date again.

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    Default Re: Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

    Yea Shortman's right. Accepting it is reinforcing that you are available to her whim. Technically, this shouldve been done after the 2nd date.

    IF she contacts you, then play her. She will probably tell you the dates she is available. Agree to one of the dates. (so say you arrange for a Friday nite).

    Then text her something along the lines of:
    "Really sorry about this, but can't make Friday" (and leave it at that. Don't need to explain yourself.)

    DO NOT follow up with "Can we do Saturday instead or "When is a good time for you?"

    This will automatically force her to respond back with an alternative date. "What about Saturday?"

    By doing this, she is forced into suggesting an alternative date, not you.

    Next, wait a little before you respond and then agree to meet her on whatever day she suggests.

    "Yea Saturday is fine, thanks for being cool with this."

    This will reduce chances of her flaking out. You want to demonstrate that your time is valuable/precious and you are fitting her into your busy schedule and hectic social life.

    This is Kezia Noble's tactic on how to deal with flaking.

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    Default Re: Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

    Thanks for all the replies. I had actually gone ahead and told her that I wasn't sure if Sunday would work. This was on Friday, and I've yet to hear back from her despite her texts throughout the week hinting at us doing something. So at this point I'm done with trying to contact her, she knows where to find me.

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    Default Re: Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

    Honestly I feel like she is shit testing you. She has you by the balls, she knows it and she likes the feeling. That's my impression.

    To fix it, you need to neg, dhv, control frames, and show your powerful, alpha status, where she is just one of the many things that are going on in your life. Don't take any shit from her.

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    Default Re: Flaked twice after first date, but still wants to do something

    Well I had posted another thread previously about the same girl about how she's hard to talk to because she just doesn't say a whole lot whether it be in text or person. The last thing I like to do is talk too much and be needy sounding. She knows she's flaked now 3 times on me, so in that sense I feel like either she's found some other d1ck, or is suddenly no longer interested And should let her come to me if she wants, am I wrong?


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