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Thread: How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

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    Default How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

    Recently I met a girl through mutual friends who has shown a lot of interest. I've only seen her with these friends and want to meet with her alone. I wrote her this message: "(XXX) Cafe. You'll like it for sure! We're going on Wednesday mmkay?"

    She responded by telling me that her best friend (who I know well) is really excited to go and asked who else is going. How would you respond?

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

    Be cool & don't make a big deal out of it.
    Let her know her friend is very welcome to be there too.

    Anytime you show disappointment &/or jealousy, it's gonna be bad.

    So just accept it as is for now & enjoy the moment.
    And be sure to flirt & be fun when you're with her.


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    Default Re: How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

    Thanks for the advice! It's not too bad, her best friend is my buddy's girlfriend and she thinks highly of me. I just didn't know if this was some kind of test.

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    Default Re: How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

    It could be..
    but it's also possible she would just like to have another friend along until she's a little more comfortable.

    Either way, it's not anything to really be concerned about.

    If she's more relaxed, it's gonna be to your benefit.


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    Default Re: How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

    In all honesty, it's your fault for wording the text the way you did. Specifically, you said, "We're going on wednesday." I immediately thought, "Who is we."

    Since you have only hung out in a group with this girl, there is an expectation that when you guys hang out it will be in a group. If you want to take her out alone you are going to have to say so unambiguously.

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    Default Re: How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

    You could also just be honest and tell her you'd rather it'd just be you and her.

    Eventually you're gonna have to get her out alone if you want something to happen. If you keep going on these group outings, that's a sure path to the friend zone

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    Default Re: How to respond to a girl bringing mutual friends along?

    Ok thanks guys! I'll make this work out now and use it as a segue to meeting her alone. Next time I'll word the message more specifically to show I just want to see her.


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