First of all, hello all, this is my first post. From the vast spoils of a major city in western Canada. I have been casually observing and looking over the PUA literature out there across the internet, discussing tactics with a wide range of friends, and only today did i find myself eager to enter the forums.
So let's get to business. I'll give some context, no pun intended.
We are dealing with an ex-coworker. Let's say, HB 8.5 or 9. Had a fantastic connection for all of september. It happened to be the month after a long a awful summer where I gradually ended a two-year relationship, one of those live-together, plan-our lives-together type things. Looking back, it's entirely possible that I got destroyed by a BF-destroyer, to use the parlance of this subculture. Anyhow, perhaps this is why I am taking a real interest in PUA theory now. Back to this ex-coworker with whom things went swimmingly back in september. I was just loaded to the hilt with confidence that month, and the rush of being recently single made things just so wonderfully easy. Great outings, great laughs, overall greatness. Then I "closed" towards the end of the month. The sex was absolutely terrific. And then once again. And then nothing.... We've hung out outside of work only once since then (I've since had to transfer elsewhere in the city). I'm lingering at the edge of the friendzone, quite possibly inside its borders, but I am reasonably confident from the vibes I get, largely through our texts, that I didn't book myself a one-way ticket.
Here we are in January. For some reason, she's still stoked on hanging out, and she mentions all these little plans we've made without me having to prompt her. She's coming to see me with her best friend on friday, and has alluded to us spending time together apart from that on another occasion. This is wonderful, right? I need time to rekindle that spark, and will gladly leap at the opportunity. My question to any onlookers and experts is, well, how does one say "yes" over text, without coming across as needy, over-zealous, etc. In other words, I need to give off "yeah, I think I'd like that", and not "ah hells yeah, this is the greatest day of my life".
I will provide (with obvious protection of identities) a brief sample of the last text interaction we had.
(keep in mind we already have something set up--albeit with her best friend in tow--on friday. but we havent been alone in ages. yet i know the door isn't closed.)
her- ".... I'm stoked on friday! we should hang out soon too, hey?"
me - "I agree. hanging out would be nice. I have specifically craving XXXX. Food for thought. Night, XXXX.
In the third sentence, I alluded to a classy, hip restaurant in the city that we've made loose plans to go to. perhaps i shouldnt have thrown in the pun? sh1t, i dunno. when i wished her goodnight, I used a shortened version of her real name that, so far as i can tell, only I call her.
Please offer some critiques on my reply. I wasn't about to engage in some epic texting conversation--- though I haven't purchased the Magnetic Messaging stuff, I know that's often a pointless road to becoming just some lame text-buddy. Besides, we had a pretty good connection in the preceding texts. Anyway, I'm eager to hear your collective two cents.