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Thread: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

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    Default New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Alright lads, first time poster, long time reader here.

    Bit of background: Slowly over the past 12 months I've improved my game drastically considering I used to have bad social anxiety. I'm nearly 19 years old with probably average looks so I'm pretty pleased with the results I've had out on the field up to this point.

    However.

    Lately I've found myself a little out of my depth texting with a HB9 I've never actually met before. (I found her on twitter and she's fairly local.)
    Done enough initially to get her phone number privately over twitter although texting her has been more of a challenge.

    Over the course of the week we've texted back and fourth briefly. Like 5/6 texts a day? I've kept the cards close to my chest using a lot of tips from the amazing texting guides from this site, however I'll cut to the chase.
    **EDIT FOR MORE CONTEXT**
    (She's a big nerd (like me) and I was teasing her saying I'd kick her ass at some games and she replied playfully saying "come round and I'll prove I'm better than you" This is a good ioi but where could I go from here? I can't invite her round to my place cus I'm in student accommodation in University and at the same time, is it possible to invite yourself to her house? Doubt it.)

    Basically my problem is that I'm finding it hard to flirt/tease with her because she takes so long to text back (FYI I'm not making the mistake of replying instantly). I've done my best with what I can work with but I feel the window of opportunity to ask her out is closing fast.

    Have any of you guys been in this position before?
    I've never asked a girl out that I've never met before and I'm wondering if any posters on here have any advice for doing so.
    It might not be any different than asking out someone you have met before. I just don't wanna feck this up

    Cheers for reading

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    Default Re: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Hey man,

    Welcome to the community.

    Il try and be as helpful as I can, but there are other who are better at this and will probably be more useful aka the Allstars and such

    first off) Congrats on your improvement, I hope that It continues exponentially.

    There isnt anybody out of your league bro. You've gotten her number thats awesome, youve established some contact and some ioi's so thats all good.

    What is it exactly thats stopping you from inviting her round? Housemates/single sex halls?

    If she is really a gamer (thats awesome) is there an arcade nearby? I struggle to find these but yeah w.e

    I have been and am In a similar situation, albeit I have met the chick.

    Ive found that if the window seems to you like its closing then it probably is.
    If shes taking to long to reply then either freeze her out OR (may be utter rubbish, its worked for me so far)mid text conversation just call her up and continue from there.

    As to asking her out via the internet thats something Im working on aswell so im hoping that the advice you receive will be useful to me also

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    Default Re: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Dude, she asked you to come round, just be like 'ok, I'll come round on Saturday and thrash you ' problem solved :L if she don't want you to then she'll say lol

    Linking x

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    Default Re: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Although to be fair if there is an arcade around that's a better shout obv just due to the whole public meeting someone for the first time thing.....

    Linking x

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    Default Re: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Thanks for the reply mate.

    In a nutshell I can't really invite her to my place cus I have 1 housemate who never really stops studying lol, even at weekends and the place is generally just a little grubby.

    The arcade is actually a great shout, that's another option.

    Like I touched on earlier. I want to ask her out but I just feel I'm not quite at that stage with her and it's frustrating because I can't get to that stage because it's hard to flirt with someone over the course of 6 hours between texts, ye know.

    P.S Good luck with your situation man

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    Default Re: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Ok, so I would approach this completely differently than you are.

    Don't freeze her out. If you're wait 5-6 days to text, you're already Freezing Her Out and that's not doing shit for you. Instead, focus on how you are texting her. For instance, don't text her back instantly during your conversations. Make her wait for your responses. 1, 2, 3, 4 hours, whatever. Make her wait.

    Make your texts very interesting. Read the texting guide on here, and learn how to hook girls with your texts.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Mate Im still confused, she asked u to come round, what do you mean our not at 'that stage'? :S

    Linking x

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    Default Re: New Situation Punching Above My Weight Advice Needed!

    Quote Originally Posted by linking View Post
    Mate Im still confused, she asked u to come round, what do you mean our not at 'that stage'? :S

    Linking x
    Sorry for the vagueness of my previous post.

    Essentially on the 2nd day of texting her she said:
    "Come round (to my house) and I'll prove I'm better than you" at the time, since this was only like the 5th text she actually sent to me and since I had never actually met this girl in real life, I just took it as a good ioi and carried teasing her.

    Forgive me for my naivety, it's just I've never had to ask someone that I've never met out before.
    Had this been a girl I had met previously, of course I would have replied with something like:
    "We'll find out this weekend then".

    Anyways, a little update since last night is her teasing has shifted back to the whole gaming thing again. Hopefully now, I'll get a good opportunity to get her out.

    Thanks.


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