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Thread: The 3 month hump

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    Default The 3 month hump

    Over the years since I first started dating back in high school, I've noticed that there often seems to be a point after about 3 months of dating a girl where things tend to go stale. Gets a little boring, I lose interest, she loses interest, whatever it may be. I'm sure it's at least partly my fault. It doesn't always happen, but when it does it seems it's usually around that 3 month mark. And sometimes I make it through just fine without consciously doing anything much different, sometimes not.

    Anyway, been dating this girl about 2 months now. Everything's been great, and I really don't have any reason to believe it's gonna go south right now. But in the interest of preparedness, is there any advice anyone can offer to stave off "the hump" just in case it does present itself?

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    Lightbulb Re: The 3 month hump

    Try to keep things adventurous and spontaneous. Be that guy that she is dating that in unpredictable and unable to guess his next move. For example, plan a trip to somewhere offbeat and unique of some sort. Adam Lyons said that having this feature is vital if the relationship is not going to fail. One last note: If tis inevitably happens, perhaps it is because the two of you were just not compatible (I'm not saying that this is the case, just stating it a possibility for previous failures).
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    Default Re: The 3 month hump

    I agree with everything edgemaster said. I'll add my two cents. I'm probably older than you. I've dated a ton, but I have had 5 serious relationships in my life. And they all lasted around two years before it went stale, etc. So your 3 months, is my two years. I read a bunch of studies that were done on relationships, and they actually pinpiont two years as being the number where you feel a need to decide whether your partner is right or now. I read these articles a long time ago, so I forget the exact scientific reasons for these. But my view is, there is no magic to any of these numbers. 3 months or two years. I think you don't think about the time, and think mroe about how you are feeling. And if you really like the girl and you are feeling good about it, make sure you take edge's advice. If you're not feeling it, you shouldn't fight it. Just move on. But don't overthink the numbers... think about how you feel.
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    Default Re: The 3 month hump

    Hmm good stuff...I'll have to try and think something up.

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    Default Re: The 3 month hump

    Most guys get too comfortable with a girl... especially after fclosing. Its like mission accomplished! She undoubtedly likes me... no more urgency.

    Keep the relationship in cycles. Attract, comfort seduce... attract comfort seduce... not to the point of monotony but more like "what alpha qualities have i showed lately?"

    Always try to be on one section (attract comfort rapport seduce) but dont stay on anyone too long. Oh and avoid tendancy to only touch her when u really need sex... women notice this and will test u about it (saw a hot wife call out her husband bout this on Oprah lol! He totally went into AFC mode!
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    Default Re: The 3 month hump

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    Most guys get too comfortable with a girl... especially after fclosing. Its like mission accomplished! She undoubtedly likes me... no more urgency.

    Keep the relationship in cycles. Attract, comfort seduce... attract comfort seduce... not to the point of monotony but more like "what alpha qualities have i showed lately?"

    Always try to be on one section (attract comfort rapport seduce) but dont stay on anyone too long. Oh and avoid tendancy to only touch her when u really need sex... women notice this and will test u about it (saw a hot wife call out her husband bout this on Oprah lol! He totally went into AFC mode!
    Great post! So true. I needed something like this right now
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    Default Re: The 3 month hump

    No problem.

    Its so simple to remember but guys constantly get caught up in life stuff and forget that a relationship is WORK. There is no autopilot lol.

    Easy way to remember... "what have you done for her lately?"

    Did u qualify her a bit (use sparingly)? Build comfort? Seduce?
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