Been talking to a girl I met online since the new year. It's a long story. Im sure you'll find it amusing. Please do read I really need some advice.
Since our first scheduled date fell through after an argument (more like an over-reaction on her part), we have been playing these cat and mouse games. She asked me to pick her up one day for lunch - I told her I had other obligations and rescheduled for the next day.
Two hours before our plans, she asked "are you the type of person that waits to have sex til marriage? I'm just asking". I knew she wasn't 'just asking', she was disqualifying me (when we first started talking, I told her I was a Christian). She wanted an excuse to skip out on the date. I told her "yes, I'm not a virgin, but I am choosing to remain abstinent until marriage". She said "I like having sex and if we ever dated, that'd be a problem." a few texts later, the truth. "let's do this some other time, I have things to do today." - just like that she flaked.
Two days passed, I initiated a conversation,
Me: "you still havnt told me when your going to take me out (; "
Me: "it's a universal rule. You cancel a date, you reschedule. I could be wrong."
Her: "that wasn't a date"
(trying to get me to qualify?)
Me: "so the abstinence thing was the deal breaker huh? Fair enough. I'll leave you alone"
Her: "wtf, I never said that. But ok. i liked you and then you said i was too young an blah blah .im mature for my age so..." (there she goes qualifying herself again, lol)
(I had been disqualifying her due to her age and maturity. I think she was tired of qualifying herself and was trying to turn the tables. She wanted to be in control - so she used the sex thing to disqualify me. Her making a big deal at the end there is what made me realize, she still likes me. She was just upset that I wouldn't qualify myself for her and realized that I wasnt compromising and I was willing to end it on that note. She clearly had other plans.)
We decided later on in the conversation to keep talking and to go on a "date". I told her my schedule for the weekend and told her to let me know what was good for her. Maybe this wasnt the best thing to do.
This coversation took place yesterday. Last night she texted me before going to bed. I replied with something interesting, then asked "what's on your mind?" she said "you". We chatted for a minute and ended the convo.
So... We're back to square one. I'm afraid to plan a date because I feel like she is going to flake. The problem is that when she cancels, she don't reschedule. She says let's do this some other time. Is this time different? Are we to the point where she is going to make me a priority? If not, how to I guarantee the first date or any other date?
Another thing. This girl is clueless when it comes to teasing. She either don't understand the difference between playful teasing (flirting) and insults or she just thinks shes above it all. Every time I neg her or tease, she gets mad and blows me off and ignores me. But she always comes back for more - I don't get it. Most of the time she is the one initiating the conversation.
Is there a way around this? How can I get her to play along when Im messing around with her? - she's got it all wrong if she thinks I'm going to flatter her at every turn and tell her how great she is.