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Thread: Texting VS. Calling

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    Cool Texting VS. Calling

    I #closed this HB8 on Saturday. She was definitely attracted because yesterday she was sending me two texts for every one I would send her. She also responds to my texts almost immediately while I've been waiting 30 min to up 6 hours later to respond.

    This was the last few texts.
    Her: Yay im off of work.
    Me: Yay. So now we can finally talk. You're not driving are you? (30 min later)
    Her: Gm how are you. Can i call you after work. (the next day)
    Me: I'm great and you... It depends, what time? (6 hours later)
    Her: Like now I guess. (immediate response)
    Me: I'm running errands now. Around 8 would be good. (5 min later)
    (No response. No call)

    I was genuinely busy so I couldn't talk. I don't know if she is aggravated, busy, or just losing attraction! So I'm thinking of doing either of these two:

    • Texting her something funny and cocky tomorrow to maintain/build attraction.
    • Calling her to attract, qualify, and build comfort.


    Either way I don't want to come off desperate or lose value. What do you think should be done?

    By the way I never qualified her or built a lot of comfort.

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    Default Re: Texting VS. Calling

    Wait till tomorrow. Rag on her for not calling you. Then she should call you and its game on.
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    Default Re: Texting VS. Calling

    From what I've read, this situation calls for a nice little neg. As Duke said, rag on her. My immediate reaction would be to use a neg directed against the fact she didn't call me or challenge her over the fact she didn't call me.

    What I mean by a challenge is the following, and I am using this from a Derek Rake reading. Suppose you approached a woman and gave her a funny comment on her heels. She ignores you and continues to walk on or whatever. After that, you could say "You know, I figured someone of your attractiveness wouldn't have a sense of humor. However, looks can be deceiving, so I decided to give you the benefit of the doubt." The key to doing something like that is to do it sincerely and coolly. This is meant to catch her attention, catch her off-guard, and get her thinking about you for various reasons.

    Like I've said in previous threads though, I'm still learning about all of this stuff. If someone thinks differently about what to do, I'm all ears.
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    Default Re: Texting VS. Calling

    Maybe she is just losing attraction.

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    Default Respark the Fire

    Joanna does bring up a good point that I had not thought of before. If she is bored, then you need to make the conversation interesting again. Hit her with a topic she isn't expecting. More importantly, try to entertain yourself while doing it. Nothing helps more to move conversation along and keep it worthwhile than by having a good time yourself.
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    Default Re: Texting VS. Calling

    Its just logistics to me. U call her she busy... she calls u ur busy. If u try to hard to set up a call, u will appear needy... especially if u are lacking comfort.

    give her a small neg and go no contact for a few days. Then reinitiate later on with a text
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    Default Re: Texting VS. Calling

    Thanks for the advice guys. I decided to send her a text the next day it was something playful to get her engaged but it wasn't a neg. I immediately got a response back.

    Then a switched quickly into a text game where I sent her 2 things and she has to pick which one that she would prefer. I got a lot of engagement on her part along with a few "lol" and "lmao".

    Then I started to build comfort by starting to talk about where each other goes to school.

    Although she responds very quickly to my texts her texts are very short (1-5 words) compared to my 2-3 liners. I ended up getting aggravated and sending her "that's cool" after she responded with a "yup" to my question asking if she wants to be a teacher. No text since.

    I'm getting aggravated because it seem like I'm putting in a lot of effort to keep the conversation going.

    Do you normally keep pushing through or do you just move on to the next one?

    It seems like more attraction needs to be built but I figured I would've done this with the playful text and the game.

    I just feel like if I keep texting her I would be chasing and no man needs to chase any woman. There are too many out here to just be focused on one.

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    Default When in doubt, YES

    You know, I used to have the same problem that you are right now. I used to debate all the time about whether I was doing something in an extremity or not. Often times, just through debating it, I would end up trying too hard. In recent times, I have adopted a new philosophy when it comes to forming relationships with women. It goes like this:

    If you think you are trying to hard, you are.

    So far, it sounds like your texts are coming across as trying to chase her. I had the same problem with short texts the other night. I was playing the poke game with her, and she was not responding much, so I said "I see your style: don't say much, yet go hard". It worked for getting her to respond more (and poke quicker). When she said things have been tough, I prodded her for more, and that's when she completely opened up to me. After that, I reversed the game on her and let her run the conversation, which she did very well.

    The topic of school is nice, but to be frank, it's a typical conversation topic, which also means it's boring. I remember reading from another poster here on power topics, which a conversation topics that you can hold for a good twenty minutes. Make sure you have many of those and you know them well. Another thing to have are interesting topics. For example, if you know her well enough, play Style's 5 Game. Either that, or ask her a question that is out of the ordinary or potentially entertaining. Remember, you are trying to show her that you are not a boring bum.

    Here's another way to think about it.

    When you see someone go hunting, how do they hunt? Do they run around and search as best as they can for their target? No, of course not. They do two things: bait and wait. They figure out what their target is, and they figure out what are the best ways to attract it. After that, they wait.

    Same thing applies to women. Figure out which of her buttons gets the best reactions from her. Don't try to run after her. You should always be relaxed, and never overexerting yourself. Instead, let her come to you. Stay chill.
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    Default Re: Texting VS. Calling

    Your texts should never be two or three lines long. Unless you need to say something serious (ex. Sorry your mom died) and even in that circumstance, a call would probably be better.

    Red Baron once told me that the more you say, the more needy you look. This is way more true when texting. If she has to read a whole paragraph, she will lose interest.

    Women are the talkers. They can say alot about the simplest topics. Your job is to give her just a little push to get her talking. That push is a conversation starter (check many texting threads on the forum). When u bring up an interesting topic, and you allow them to express themselves... they'll think you are a good listener.

    They also like to be the center of attention. If u text long responses, they start to feel that you enjoy their attention. That you want to be the center of attention. They subconciously hate that.
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    Default Re: Texting VS. Calling

    Quit texting her for a couple of days- freeze her out and in the mean time move on to someone else. And all these fellas posted great avice


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