I am having a bit of a dilemma with this HB I am currently pursuing. A little background info: I have had her over for dinner where I cooked her a an awesome meal (she was impressed for sure as I am a decent cook) and the night eventually led to my bedroom where we fooled around a bit although she seemed stand off-ish towards taking the next step. I took it as LMR so I did the usual "let's just be friends, us together could be a very dangerous combination" she came back full force, but still something was holding her back. She had to frequently use the bathroom every time things would pick up heavy. I found later in my trash can when I went to use the bathroom that there was a tampon wrapper and plastic applicator at the bottom of the bag...I think she was just embarrassed to tell me it was her time of the month, so things weren't as bad as I had thought. we sent texts back and forth for about two days and I tried to set up another meet, but she claimed to be working all week (she's a stripper. my first in fact!) She seemed a bit cold, so I decided to use a Freeze Out for six days or so. I sent her a text today and here's how it went:
(I have included time stamps on the texts and my take on what she said)
13:35 Me: "Getting my hair trimmed, listening to this lady b1tch about the blonde hair she asked for, looks like crap when my hair dresser told her it'd be ugly..Face palm?"
*I thought it was a funny story and used it to start a conversation. Btw she curses like a sailor.
15:52 HB: "Hahaha. It took me a sec to understand what face palm meant."
*Maybe it was too convoluted? I figured since I got a warm and affable response that it was going well.
17:40 Me: "Trimmed and filled with taming chemicals...it's so clean I feel dirty."
*I included a picture of my hair all done (I usually have a monstrous afro...its just the way my hair grows and It is a part of my personna as a musician as well, so it was fairly shocking for her to see me that way. I thought it was a clever little jest at being a tad flirty. I waited till I got home to send the text since I couldn't prior.
17:48 HB: "lol"
*I utterly hate the one word response and thought I was losing her, so I took a risk and shot for a meet set up text.
17:56 Me: "Time to wash it out! I want to see my purple haired mistress this week. I hear she cooks! "
*She died her hair purple so that's where that comes from...I may have gone too far with the "mistress" title. She told me she wanted to meet and cook for me a next time a week prior so I took the risk.
18:08 HB: "No can do. I'll elaborate later"
18:21 Me: "OoOo k. Story of the year and a pianist who uses his toes...this and more news at 10. lol! See ya"
*I wrote this to appear unaffected by her decision. It may have been a bit vague, but I was nudging at the fact that she was going to give some excuse. I believe she may have met someone else and I'm ready to pull the plug even though I really like this girl. I wrote a quick 'see ya', as to not text any longer and prepare for another freeze out possibly.
18:25 HB: "The fark? lol."
*I figured she just didn't get it, but since she said that she would elaborate later I figured she was busy and had other things to do as did I, so I haven't responded.
Can I salvage this? Where did I go wrong? Should I do another freeze out or should I respond with an explanatory text? Things were going so well The night I had seen her and the texting seemed good in the beginning, but ended strangely. Need some help from the gurus! Much appreciated.