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    Default How should I interpret This?

    Text Conversation with chic from work. In the past we never talked about work in person she shows definite inetrest but i don't show much myself, and don't talk to her much. Convo goes:

    Her: Don't forget your taking my shift tomorrow morning

    Me: Yeah im gonna regret it in the morning

    Her: You better be there that's all I'm saying

    Me: Lol oh yeah?

    Her: yeah okay have fun drinking.. bye

    Me: No need to be rude

    Her: I'm not

    Me: I wouldn't screw you over like that

    Her: thanks

    Me: I love when youre all grumpy and mean

    Her: Im not

    Me: k

    Obviously I wasn't trying to have a conversation I was at a party at the moment which is why I wasn't being flirty or anything. But she seemed to attack the fact that I was drinking. And she was being rude especially since i was doing her a favor by taking her shift. Anyone understand this?
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    Default Re: How should I interpret This?

    Way I see it, she feels like you're unreliable because you're drinking before going to work. That's why she attacked you for the drinking. You shouldn't take it personally - most people would be pissed if you're partying and are supposed to take their shift.

    She's also probably jealous because you're out having fun and she's grooming cats or something

    Point is, shrug it off and, if you wanna have some fun with it, tease her about it in person.
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    Default Re: How should I interpret This?

    If you're fairly certain she's interested in you then here's how I read it.

    First, you've probably got attainability problems with her. She's interested but you haven't shown any attraction, so she's starting to feel like the attraction she feels is going nowhere.

    Second, she's probably jealous that your out--likely with other women--and she's not.

    If you're interested in her you should so some IOIs so she gets the point. And they should probably be some obvious IOIs.
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    Default Re: How should I interpret This?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    First, you've probably got attainability problems with her.
    This makes since. I am seen as the flirt at my work (but I'm careful not to sleep around). Anyway before I knew her she use to be wicked standoffish to me clearly she didn't like the way I was with girls. However I started talking to her and she fell into "my spell" just like the rest of them. Every time I saw her she would seem almost excited to talk to me. Then she started acting bitchy to me again and I can see where it would be from what you said. So how do i show meaningful IOIs when she sees me as a flirt.
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    Default Re: How should I interpret This?

    "How to Make Girls Chase" by Chase Amante is great with attainability problems. He approaches the subject much more thoroughly than I have seen it approached in other books. So I'd take a look at that ebook if I were you. It's even fairly reasonably priced if I remember correctly.

    Here's how I would approach this (based on what I've read and seen in the field). First, I would lighten up on teasing her and absolutely do not neg her any more. Attainability problems stem from the fact that she believes her value is too low to attract you, so you don't want to bring her value down.

    Second, take interest in what she's doing/saying and make it sound like you're intrigued by it and that it has value. You want to be able to relate yourself to her so that she starts to see you more as an equal than as a superior.

    Third, start rewarding her for her demonstrations of value. This can be as simple as acting elated when she approaches you to asking her follow up questions to her stories.

    Fourth, start qualifying yourself around her a little more. Qualifying is technically speaking a dlv. If she feels her value is lower than yours you either have to raise hers or lower yours or some combination of the two.

    Fifth, straight up tell her that you like her. Tell her you think shes a cool gal and you'd like to hang out with her outside of work some time.

    Having low attainability is a better position to be in than having high attainability. You can at least correct a bit from your position.
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