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Thread: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

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    Default Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    I'm going to be posting my thoughts on how the dating game should be approached, the attitudes when dealing with women you are sexually attracted to, and other inner game principles. The main focus of this thread will be inner game because i truly believe that one needs a rock solid foundation before any 'method' or 'routine' will work effectively. You can sleep with a hundred women but that's just a number, this is to provoke some deep reflections which will hopefully align your mind with your goals and help you stay true to yourself while attracting the women you want.

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    Bravo! I can respect that Mindset.

    Goodluck!
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    1// The Nice guy and the Asshole
    Before I write about anything else, I'm going to address this topic because I had a lot of trouble with it myself and I'm thinking it'll help others too.

    Firstly ask yourself: 'Am I a nice guy?'
    Then ask yourself: 'WHY am i a nice guy?'

    What I'm trying to say here is that at our core, we are all quite selfish. 'I want this, I want that, I like this etc.' It's a pure child-like mentality, so to speak. So when we are raised, our parents and society tell us to act in a certain 'proper' way, to be respectful, kind and so on. I'm not saying that this is wrong but, I am saying that it takes away our choice. I believe that everything we control in our own lives are choices. It is far more important to know that we are capable of being downright assholes BUT we choose not to. This understanding opens your eyes to new possibilities.

    Women at a young age learn that 'nice guys' are mostly skilled actors. Once they get what they want, the 'nice guys' show their true personality. This leaves women confused and they put 2 and 2 together and figure out that he's just 'using' them. Sure there are genuine nice guys out there but i'll address that later on. Over time this behavior paired with pedastalling makes women sick and they want something/someone 'real'.

    Enter asshole. This is the other extreme. The guy who says what wants to say and does what he wants to do. He is brutally 'honest' in his opinions and right off the bat, women can tell that he's a no bullsh1t type of guy. His interest in her is pure lust and his intentions are 100% clear. When she's with him she knows that he's not going to change (even though she'll constantly try to change him, because it's in her nature and is a way of 'testing' him i.e she's making sure that he's still the same guy.
    /side note/: this is why it's important to let her know the boundaries early on in the relationship so she knows that she can't walk all over you and you have standards. Even if sh1t goes south, she'll still have respect for you.

    Now this is the tricky part: 'Where do I fit in?'

    Well this is something that only you can answer. I could tell you to act a certain way but that would contradict your own belief system. The first step is to identify your boundaries, limits and beliefs.

    How do you want to be treated? How do you expect to be treated? What would you give up for someone you really care about without sacrificing beliefs? What defines loyalty?

    These are just a few simple questions which will help you understand yourself. Once you have defined yourself and truly know who the fark you are, then you can start picking up women with ease. sh1t tests will disappear because she'll immediately know by looking in your eyes that you've got your sh1t together and her bullsh1t isn't going to shake that. Instead you'll start getting 'player' tests to see if you're going to stick around. (same principle applies for handling them, you handle it with your internally calibrated principles).

    If you truly control yourself, you control the world.

    Cheers,
    Az

    P.S. I expect that 10% will immediately understand what i'm talking about, 30% will have a rough idea, and the rest might not be able to understand because i haven't written in enough detail. To those who don't understand: try reading it over a few times and let it sink in. If you disagree then that's just your opinion, right? (good job, you know your beliefs )

    I also realize that there are few girl PUAs here, but for now i'll be writing mainly for guys, maybe in the future if something's relevant, i'll post something aimed at girl PUAs.

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    I found this extremely true. Good Job!

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    2// The abundance mentality
    A lot of pua's are told to have the 'abundance' mentality. This in itself is a problem for many people because there is no real abundance of women in their lives so faking this mentality just won't cut it for most. The only solution i can offer here to those who are struggling with this Mindset is to relax and not be over involved. Let me explain. I know it's practice to go out sarging thursday, friday, saturday etc. but think about it. If you're going out all these days you're immediately subconciously pedestaling women (recent realization) because it's easy to lose track of having fun and the sole purpose becomes getting a number, same night lay etc. Instead a person with an abundance mentality goes out only to have fun and leaves when it's appropriate instead of lingering with hopes of 'getting lucky'.

    This also relates to:

    3// The alpha male
    I've seen numerous posts on what it means to be alpha and how it's not alpha to do this and it's alpha to do that. The only thing you really need to know about being alpha is 'be true to yourself' i.e. 'do whatever the fark you want to do' ( (c) hodgetwins ). A natural alpha male doesn't think 'wow this is gonna make me look so alpha in front of everyone... blah blah'. He sees something and goes for it despite the possibility of rejection/ failure and tries his best to overcome all obstacles.

    4// Overthinking and worrying
    'Oh no, she hasn't texted back in 20 mins, i'm gonna die!'. Sounds familiar? Personally, i used to worry about every farking small detail; everything had to be perfect. You start asking everyone what to do and how to handle the situation and what you could've done better and eventually people will get sick of it, if you keep doing this. Trust me, this leads down a bad road. Overthinking leads to overanalyzing and too much time wasted on bullsh1t. Use all the knowledge you have but don't focus too much time and energy on girls. This one piece of advice i use to this day that stops me from doing this stupid sh1t and wasting my time is this:

    'Don't. Be. A. Little Bitch. Man the fark up.'

    Go out, make mistakes, learn, and move the fark on.

    Till next time bros,
    stay safe,
    Az

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    I just want to touch in about abundance Mindset and sarging all the time. Men who do not have alot of women in their lives may have a hard time feeling abundant. Im just starting to see success and what ive been telling myself is that no one girl even really matters. There are SO MANY in this world how can one even make a difference. This has helped me be abundant even when I dont have a harem of women.

    Also about going out all the time. Its not putting them on a pedestal if your doing for your self development. When you go out you are improving your social skills and offering your value to women. The intent of going out is improving yourself, no focus is on any one girl out there. Let me know what you think

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    Something I have a problem with is to switch my mood between "not caring" and giving a girl (or anything) my full attention. If I'm in a "not caring" mood, I'm awesome, but also very hard to pick up, and when I'm in caring mood, I will get stuck on that girl or even that part of the process.

    Distractions do help though.

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    What if you're both the asshole and the nice guy? People at my school call me a player and know a lot of the things I've done with other women at my school and they want to see if it's true. My problem is how to be a good guy and an alpha without showing too much asshole characteristics( sometimes I dot care and say whatever I want not caring about what peo

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    Yeah, work on those Alpha characteristics but dont be a complete asshole. This is where you qualify girls, tell them why they're special. Be a leader of men and control your environment. If your honest about your intentions and you put it all out there to be seen all your friends can say is like damn, you must be good because she still wants to get with you. No need for trickery and no need to step on others. Except AMOGS

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    Default Re: Natural Game, Mindset & Goals

    5// Honesty & Integrity

    This is the part where all that self reflection and deep thoughts converge and your true character is tested. It's one thing to say 'I'll never lie to a girl about a relationship..' etc. etc. but another to have her butt naked in front of you with the moonlight bouncing of her skin, and that look in her eyes that says 'I want to suck your d1ck'. Personally before I sleep with a girl for the first time, after we're naked, i go through a very quick checklist:

    1. 'i hate to ask but do you have a STD?'
    (better safe than sorry boys)

    **Note: Usually my sexual encounters are fast paced, exciting, short-lived romances (due to distance problems, out of town etc.)

    2. if i feel she might have gotten the wrong idea, either immediately after sex (usually before she sleeps with you she'll ask, if she's ready to fark, 'what are we doing?' or 'this is strange' (since she's never had such a whirlwind romance.)

    so here you can either tell her that at this very moment you're both about to experience something awesome or you can tell her what you think she wants to hear. I'm not judging but I'd rather tell her what I want and cut any bullsh1t at this point.

    If you can Take Away anything from these ideas is this:
    Set your rules, your code, your M.O if you will, and rarely stray from it. This internalization should become second nature and before you know it, you'll be wondering how you farked her in the first place, i.e. you were so smooth even you don't know how you did it

    I know it's brief but I'm not really in the mood for essay writing.

    Hope this helped,

    Peace,
    Az

    P.S. Any questions? pm me.


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