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    Zany90 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Are looks super important in online dating?

    Hey,

    Im totally new to all of this - i recently read the game, and from there have read bits and pieces on the mystery method and watched some real social dynamics stuff.

    It really is all starting to "click" and make sense, and its almost as if i feel more confident just from knowing this stuff...

    However, when it comes to online dating, are looks much more important?

    Put it this way, i really do not think im a bad looking guy, in fact i would say im quite good looking, but i hardly EVER receive replies on online dating sites, ever... sometimes i do, but very very very rarely...

    Last night 2 girls opened me (which actually never happens), one i wasnt really that into but talked away anyway, the other was a cute girl who added me on facebook... However, as soon as i said hello on facebook, bam, blocked - nothing, i just cant understand it except maybe shes seen my pictures and just thought fark that - meaning looks actually are important, if youre talking about online dating

    Online dating is actually super depressing to me, its as if it really hits my self esteem when i dont get replies or things like what i mentioned above happen - i know i need to be the kind of person who isnt bothered by those kinds of things but after a while it really does start to feel like "What is so farking wrong with me that noone ever replies"

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    CrunchyTime is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Are looks super important in online dating?

    If you met the girls in person that's a little different than online dating. I know a lot of people put stuff on their Facebook that can lower their value which might have been the case with the girl you met. As to actual online dating, yes looks seem to matter more. Most girls will check out your pic before reading your profile. I'd recommend having some pics on there with you in them with other attractive women. And make sure you're smiling in all your pics.

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    Default Re: Are looks super important in online dating?

    Zany, I'm very busy with work, so online dating has been the best option for me over the years, and I've become an expert at it. Especially facebook game. I've written about facebook game a few times, and others have too. You should read those posts.

    Others on the forum may disagree, but I think, at least initially... your photos / or your looks will matter more online than in real life. Why? Because there's not much more you can go on... you have the photos and your profile summary. yes, your personality can be shown via photos and profile, but you can't go beyond that. Your personality and energy don't come out as quickly as it does in person.

    Having said that though, I don't focus on that stuff anymore. It's just not productive. You gotta work with what you got and focus on your strengths.

    Why is my online dating game and facebook game, especially so great? Because I have great photos (not that I'm good looking, etc.) but great photos of me doing a lot of stuff - traveling the world, scuba diving, sky diving, riding motorcycles, me with pics with beautiful women, etc. etc. These are not fake pictures... these are truly my interests and people i hang out with. My facebook tells a story, a good one. That is the only purposeful thing i think on facebook - make my pics nice and put them out there (i also love photography, so it's easy for me).
    So as I was telling others in other posts, I don't even Number Close anymore when I am out, or any party, etc. I just say, add me on facebook... it's easy... it's ....
    and once they add me, i have never gotten a bad reaction. again, not because i'm good looking, but women are interested in guys that have an active, fun, lifestyle.

    So i'm not sure what your facebook looks like, but if it is like your average guy's facebook, i could see it being 50-50 that she would block you. most guys don't give a sh&t about photos, etc. etc.. Which is fine. But I use it has a badass marketing tool for myself.

    But look, online dating, whether paid service like match, or facebook game... i just don't worry about my looks. i just focus on the fact that i am truly an interesting dude and my pics show that.
    The world is your matrix. You control the strings.

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    blazeboy is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Are looks super important in online dating?

    If anyone wants to actually see my facebook page, I'd be happy to send over the add info in private messsage. i promise, I won't block you.
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    Zany90 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Are looks super important in online dating?

    Thanks for the replies -

    it just kinda sucks the way it is, its highly frustrating - my facebook displays me, as in who i actually am.. yes there are some wild pictures ive been tagged in from nights out etc but ultimately it shows me - it probably displays that im a party kinda guy, big into music etc - there are plenty of pictures of me with huge groups of people at parties etc -

    there are also plenty of hot girls on my facebook friends list, its not a hugely stupid list, theres only 100 people on there but i know every one of those 100 people personally

    im simply not the guy who goes scubba diving etc, im a web designer, i enjoy partying and i enjoy socialising - and everyone who knows me in person likes me and enjoys my company - there are so many more levels to my personality than you might think from the pictures, but if women are that fucking shallow that they wont even take the time to talk to someone im seriously starting to think to hell with them - i like people with depth not superficial bitches and thats all i seem to encounter online - either ignore, or stupid shit like saying hi then when i respond no reply, or like your girl last night, adds me on facebook then immediately blocks me when i try to talk to her.. totally baffling


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