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Thread: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

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    Default Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    Background: This girl puts out occasional YouTube videos, so I've had this running gag going on that I'm going to be her manager. We've been out together with a group of friends twice and have had lots of Kino and chemistry but no k-close yet. This thread starts after our last night out together over the weekend.

    Her: Thanks to your tutoring session my accounting exam went well lool
    Me: Haha anytime, but next time let's make it a private lession
    Her: Aha yeah then I'll be good for the rest of the semester
    Me: Yeah except it might just turn into a heavy make-out session and no tutoring would get done. I'm not sure I could reject all your inevitable advances ;-P
    Her: Can't mix business with pleasure sir, gotta be professional
    Her: Aha I'm such a good client
    Me: True, in that case I resign haha
    Her: Loool! Hey I thought we had a contract
    Me: Well you're the one who didn't want anything in writing, I tried to warn you :-P
    Her: You wrote it down with mustard !
    Me: Tell it to a judge!
    Me: Maybe we can patch this up, my building has a jacuzzi where I host all my business meetings :-P

    Her: Or we could just patch it up once you get that bar into your building [inside joke from the other night]
    Her: oh wait how will that happen since you were going to build it when you make money from managing me
    Me: Haha well the bar is a dream but the jacuzzi is a reality. Let's just agree to split the difference and ill invite you over on a quiet afternoon so we can kiss and make-up ;-P
    Her: Lool woahh
    I know I'm coming on strong, but it seems like she's looking for something longer term and I'm just looking for a lay. Do you guys see any way for me to turn this around or should I cut her loose?

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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    went in pretty strong. true that. and all could be fixed if it hadnt been for the less than subtle proposition to make out over txt, no offense man but this puts you in a slightly tougher situation.
    i think that answering with a follow up txt is beta, and trying to fix this would lower your value big time. waiting for a pro to comment first, but of the top of my head, the only comeback possible could MAYBE (and its a pretty big maybe) be:

    "....eskimo kiss, of course, im not THAT easy "
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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    Bro! Haphazard... one word for you. Bravo!!! That was awesome. There was nothing wrong with that son! seriously... that's how I go in. You were not cheesy or dirty. you were funny whole way through, and you escalated perfectly... you had a good mix of just joking around and then indirectly hinting... she knows you are a confident sexual guy. that is hot to a girl on any level, even if she wants "a longer term thing" like you said. I always like escalating big time over text so that when things happen in person, it's not a big deal. good job bro. I think it's time to kiss close, etc... pretty soon.
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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    love the mustard thing too. hysterical bro. I'm going to do that too next time. ha
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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    Quote Originally Posted by blazeboy View Post
    Bro! Haphazard... one word for you. Bravo!!! That was awesome. There was nothing wrong with that son! seriously... that's how I go in. You were not cheesy or dirty. you were funny whole way through, and you escalated perfectly... you had a good mix of just joking around and then indirectly hinting... she knows you are a confident sexual guy. that is hot to a girl on any level, even if she wants "a longer term thing" like you said. I always like escalating big time over text so that when things happen in person, it's not a big deal. good job bro. I think it's time to kiss close, etc... pretty soon.
    Haha thanks man, but I think I might have blown myself out. She's recoiling now and I'm not sure how to recover without looking massively beta.

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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    Yeah, I mightn't be a pro yet but I really liked that. Showed awesome confidence and she didn't seem to resist until a bit later after you'd already started.

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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    next step is to get her out on one-on-one time and build comfort. get deep in there.
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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    Ok ok ok... hold up. Breathe. Step back.

    Callmemister has the right idea... you gave away alot of interest. Way too much. U gave away the fact that u want her for a lay.

    You: "i might not be able to resist your advances"

    Bad! U basically said u would do her. She has no decision to make. You already told her u want her. Thats what started her trying to distance herself from you. Better would have been something like "i dont know if i can trust u to keep your hands off." Keep it ambiguous. Let her think about the idea and decide whether she will run with it.

    The actual conversation after u wrote that is all u trying to flirt. She shows no sign of escalating, just avoiding the issue.

    I also think the jacuzzi thing was a little too forward. Remember how they say make a non date? Your intentions are pretty clear when u say jacuzzi. You may be friends but she may not want to escalate so soon (if this were face to face, the rules would be altered slightly).

    Leave her alone, see her on fun dates. Don't bring up jacuzzi. Escalate in person physically but dont let your intentions be known through words. Remember act like SHE is chasing YOU.
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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    I think you did fine for 90% of it. But it was only overdone ever so slightly. I don't think you need much recovering. You could just go the other way. Acting completely disinterested to confuse her. It'll help get you to meet her since she will feel like you won't be trying for sex. Try some disqualifiers. Like talking about other women you are interested in. Or that you only like tall/short women.
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    Default Re: Overdid it on the sexual escalation, how do I recover?

    dude it happened to me too shit but then i was just like you probably couldnt handle me and she was like i will take up the challenge. if your trying to bring it down a peg, just say something in the similiar context like. "hey was thinking, may jacuzzi is a little too professional in our manner" then just text like you have been.


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