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    Default Tend to over think all text messages

    I'm not sure why, but with text message I generally tend to over think them and not focus on the matter at hand. For example....

    I called my ex gf last night and she didn't answer but wrote me a message this morning that read "sorry I missed u last night!" And I'm having a hard time coming up with a good response.

    Any thoughts?

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    Default Re: Tend to over think all text messages

    Quote Originally Posted by reasonmontague View Post
    I'm not sure why, but with text message I generally tend to over think them and not focus on the matter at hand. For example....

    I called my ex gf last night and she didn't answer but wrote me a message this morning that read "sorry I missed u last night!" And I'm having a hard time coming up with a good response.

    Any thoughts?
    This is easy man don't stress. Just take it in stride. If you don't know what to say do what I do get back to her after waiting 1 day giving you ample time to think. Also you could easily turn this into a flirty neg by saying the following.

    "Oh you were just avoiding me silly. But I forgive you LOL. So what did you do today when you found out I was so irresistible?" You are challenging her for blowing you off which makes you less likely to get oneitis with this chick. This is a risky text however so only attempt if you feel confident for possible fitness test or no response to follow at which you will have to do a recovery text later for.

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    Default Re: Tend to over think all text messages

    I understand your anxiety, it's the way that I can get with texts and why I'm going to put some time in to text game. Natural replies are hard to come by sometimes and this can take the wind out of texting exchanges. You always want the perfect text toast given situation but what is that perfect text?

    How can you know when to neg? When to be sexual? When to joke? What to say if you're not having a busy day?


    I mean WTF do you reply with when asked how work was? It's work, it tends to be that horrible part of the day, not so much fun :/

    As for your text, I'd text back with 'really? What was it about me that you missed so much?'

    That way encouraging her to give the good reply and direction for the text.

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    Default Re: Tend to over think all text messages

    If you're still in a good relation ship with her, just come up with something funny to say. What you don't want is to become reaction seeking and when you over think like that you become reaction seeking. I was like that aswell until I noticed it started to get me stressed on things like hanging out with people I didn't like or what not.

    Anyways.. You could say something like: ''What? are you getting shy on me.''

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    Default Re: Tend to over think all text messages

    Be confident & playful....
    A couple examples of good replies would be:

    "Of course you missed me! "

    or

    "Awwwe, you're sooo sweet... for a dork! xoxox"

    or

    "Meh, no biggie. I'm sure I was gonna say something funny though, so you DID miss out. heehe!"

    Just make the interaction FUN! That's all ya gotta do.


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    Default Re: Tend to over think all text messages

    This is me personally with my ex, but if she did that to me I would definitely take my responding if even responding at all. I do this because if she is flakey enough to not call you back and send you a message, she isn't worth my top priorities. My ex has done this and usually I'll wait a while or not respond. When I wait a while I usually get a response right away, and sometimes when I don't text her back she will send me another text! Again this is just me personally because I know how this girl works, but if IT WERE ME in your situation I probably wouldn't respond. You called, she didnt answer. She texts, and you text back... Now your playing into her game and she has the power. I might wait a till the next night or so and give her another call


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