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    ralfdickgreber is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default what to text now, and advice on next steps...

    Hi all,

    Am new here, but I need some advice on how to proceed with a
    girl... I guess I'll just jump into it, hope you guys can help.

    I
    approached a girl in the street (pulled up my car) and had a really good
    conversation with her. After some push and pull she gave me her number.

    first datewe went to have a coffee, which was all
    right, but I didn't have the same energy I had when I first met her, as I
    thought we had a connection and that she really like me anyways. So I dropped a
    bit of the dynamicism I had during the approach, and I never upped the energy level since then either.

    Second date we went for a movie and
    then dinner. I kissed her during the movie and she seemed REALLY into the kiss.
    Went to dinner, kissed her afterwards and she was not really into it anymore.
    Went for a drive as I asked her if she wanted to try my car as she as taking her
    license soon. So sh drove my car a bit which she liked. I drove her home, as she
    had to be back at 10! Good night kiss etc, was all good.

    Next date, we
    met up for a coffee at the same place as before. Was all right but nothing
    special and we kissed again (no other action, she's a bit inexperienced and I
    thought maybe I should take it easy). She then said she would be unable to meet
    for 2 weeks, despite the fact that she would be close to where I was, while
    going to school, so plenty of times in the evenings IMO or after school
    whatever. Also, except for the first date (fri) we have only met on Sundays, as
    she always has other plans for fri and sat (I suppose hanging out with her
    friends).

    I gave her the two weeks, and texted her a few times in between
    to keep the contact up. After the two weeks I suggested fri or sat for a date,
    but was told she couldn't, but she asked if i had time on sunday. I told her I
    couldn't and asked if sat brunch sounded good. She couldn't on sat, but she
    reiterated that sunday afternoon she'd like to meet. I didn't text her back,
    only on monday to say that unfortunately I didn't have time yday, but asked how
    her WE was. She texted me back saying she understood with a smiley and asked how
    mine was. Then I texted her back asking if we should meet in the WE as it had
    been a while (a month by now). She said she could meet on Sunday afternoon. I
    waited a day (which she usually does) and texted her back saying sunday's fine
    at 2:30 pm. She texts back saying 3 pm would be good for her and asked me where
    we should meet. I didn't text her back until the sunday (today) morning saying 3
    pm would be fine and where we should meet. Half an hour later I get a text from
    her saying "Sorry, we cannot meet today because I'm really sick, I can't go
    out.. Maybe another time Sorry". I called her, got the machine, didn't leave a
    msg. I was kinda pissed so I texted back: "Is it the swine flue??" (which btw
    has been spreading again in Europe!) No reply yet.

    I guess I really like
    this gal, and would like her to be my gf but i'm getting quite a few mixed
    signals. It would be nice with some fresh eyes on this.

    First off. Did I
    drop the ball by not having as much energy as when I first met her?
    Second,
    Is her wanting to meet on Sundays only a bad sign. It's like the fun days are
    reserved for her friends...
    Third, Did I do right IYO by giving her the
    shoulder last Sunday?
    Fourth, Is her last text a polite fark-off? Ie, "maybe
    another time"
    Fifth, where do I go from here? Last communication was a missed
    call to her, and a text asking if she has the swine flue.

    Cheers. REALLY
    appreciate it, hope the above isn't too
    long!

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    hyp
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    Default Re: what to text now, and advice on next steps...

    First off. Did I
    drop the ball by not having as much energy as when I first met her?
    i would say yeah, you want to be consistent with her when she first meets you with the second time, otherwise it's a bit of a shock which can make her not want you (summarised) but anyway ioi's were there with the makeouts

    Second,
    Is her wanting to meet on Sundays only a bad sign. It's like the fun days are
    reserved for her friends...

    did she explicitly say that or? but in my opinion no you can have dates anytime - fri/sat are typical "going out" nights though

    Fourth, Is her last text a polite fark-off? Ie, "maybe
    another time"

    considering she didnt return your text / call yeah

    just leave it, you can get many others

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    ralfdickgreber is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: what to text now, and advice on next steps...

    hi hyp, thx for the reply

    Some time went by, didn't get in touch. Got a missed call from her 3 days ago. Haven't reached out yet. Will give it another week and go a different direction from here. Should I contact her now tho, or wait for her to get back in touch again? What do you bros think?

    Cheers

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    Default Re: what to text now, and advice on next steps...

    why didn't you just give her a call a few hours later to find out what she wanted? 3 days later is a bit excessive but yeah you may as well call her, i don't see the harm


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