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Thread: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

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    Default Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    I heard one of David DeAngelo's guest speakers say that 94% of men who sign up with Match cancel within 90 days. That and the fact that I have had horrible results with it even though I have a very strong profile, I really starting to wonder if online dating is all about one thing and one thing only: looks! Maybe it's only for good looking people. For a guy like me, who some women find physically attractive and some don't, it can be a huge blow to the chest whenever I see nearly every single woman that I click like on, don't like me in return. I get that having a strong profile is important but something tells me the guys who are having success are very good looking or have great pictures that make them appear good looking. Am I wrong here???


    I'm not one to ever get down especially on my self image but the overwhelmingly high amount of rejection on dating sites is starting to depress me and make me second guess myself for the first time in YEARS! Part of me wants to just spare my self esteem from further damage, delete me profile. stick to night/day game and when I reach my physical goals, get some professional pics done, then start over with a whole new profile. Idk, maybe I'm wrong.

    Am I wrong about this?
    Are there really men with average or above average looks having success??
    If so, what is your advice??

    Thanks Guys!
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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    Liking them button or whatever it is that you do seems passive aggressive and might make you seem like a wimp. Just message them in the firt place. Second, you are letting something on the internet make you depressed? What the fark. For all you know it could be some 40 year old man looking to molest you or a monkey at a typewriter, etc. Don't worry about sh1t on the internet, it is a fake made up world, so don't let it suck you in.

    Lastly, it's a numbers game, every woman is different and some will like you some won't, get over it.

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    If they were that good looking they wouldn't be on online dating...

    If you really want a good looking pic for your online profile, get someone who knows what they're doing to take it. Photographers can do wonders.
    Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “WOW...What a Ride!”

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    Even if the answer turns out to be yes, how does that help you? Search for answers that help you and ignore the answers that limit you.
    Caveat: Just because I feel a certain way about my journey doesn't mean you should feel the same about yours.

    If you can't say that you would rather die than not do it; you don't want it bad enough.

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    I just had a HUGE AH-ha! Thanks guys! I'll explain it as soon as I get the time to elaborate.

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    I just had a HUGE AH-HA!!! I will explain in the next paragraph but first off, thanks for the responses guys. It help me realize that I need to be more aggressive and that just because a girl may not be a mutual match (I'm trying a site based on mutually liking each others profiles) doesn't mean that I still can't message her, grab her attention, and dial up the attraction. I'm used to being able to convey my confident, alpha body language and voice tone that really attracts women that may not immediately see me as a "yes" at first glance. I need to work on finding a few good openers that get me in the door, once I get there I'm golden as my strongpoints are after I got her initial attraction then it's so f!cking on! I have no problem with day 2's/1st Dates, first kiss, Kino, seduction, and f closing, that is my time to shine!

    Most importantly, I had a HUGE ah-ha and don't know why I didn't do this when I first thought of awhile but each pic we post on our profiles should be so with the main purpose of each pushing women's internal hardwired buttons of attraction. I am going to go get some pictures, most by a professional photographer, which will include the following:

    - Post one or two pics that convey that I am an alpha male. I'm still thinking about how exactly how I am going to present that. Any suggestions???
    - At least 2 pics that convey that I have strong social intuition. I'll need to get some pics of me with some of my male friends and of me partying with some of my beautiful female friends
    - Pics that convey preselection amongst beautiful women perhaps of me with some of my past girlfriends though I wonder if I should tell them they are my ex's. It could really dial up her attraction for me seeing that I've dated multiple 9s and 10s.
    - Pics to convey that I am the fun spontaneous type perhaps of my snowboarding and hiking
    - Pics that convey that I am a leader of men, of my tribe as mystery puts it, perhaps of me and my business's sales crew who I manage.
    - Pic that conveys that I am healthy. I am going to wait until I reach my fitness goals on that one but maybe me at the beach so there's a REAL reason why I have my shirt off. I think pics of guys with their shirts off posing, especially in front of the mirror, looks very douchey, unoriginal, and that he's a probably spends a lot of time flexing in front of the mirror.
    - Pic that conveys that I am a challenge though I'm still thinking of how to convey this. Any ideas or suggestions??

    I think these are great things to ask yourself when posting pics. What does this pic speak about me?? I realize now, the reason why many women weren't clicking like on my profile is because my pics weren't conveying anything! In fact, they probably made me look like a loner. I realize now just how important it is that our pics need to convey and push women's internal hardwired buttons of attraction. This is more important than just being good looking. Once those buttons are pushed, they will have no choice but to be attracted towards us. As long as we can continue to convey these characteristics and traits by having our profile and messages be congruent to those pics, the ladies will be dying to meet us!!

    Any suggestions on pics that will push women's internal buttons of attraction especially how to convey that I am a challenge and am alpha??? I think many of the ideas I already just mentioned already will as many of them convey multiple traits but really want to make sure I nail each one.
    Do you think it's a good idea that I post pics of me and my ex's?? I think there are pro's and con's here but it depends on which outweigh the other.
    What are some pics that have helped you with your success??

    Thanks again guys!!
    Da Vinci

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “WOW...What a Ride!”

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    My suggestion is fuck online dating (and I've had a fair amount of success with it). Considering the amount of time it takes to actually do it and the propensity for girls online to flake, I think you're exponentially better off spending your time sarging or doing something else productive. This is just my opinion, and lots of guys on here will disagree, but to each his own.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    My suggestion is fark online dating (and I've had a fair amount of success with it). Considering the amount of time it takes to actually do it and the propensity for girls online to flake, I think you're exponentially better off spending your time sarging or doing something else productive. This is just my opinion, and lots of guys on here will disagree, but to each his own.
    This

    I tried online dating in the past, and had zero luck with. I just said fark it at that point. Besides, getting girls in person is 10x better anyways.

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    Default Re: Is Online Dating Only Successful For Great Looking Guys?!?

    I've had some luck but nothing worth bragging about. Online sarging is harder because you can't take advantage of your body language and all that. Also guys seem to outnumber girls on dating sites too. So girls get bombarded by messages and it can be hard to stick out from the other guys. From what I've read in here and other forums even some veteran PUA's can have trouble with online sarging.


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