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Thread: 50 first dates - wanting to speed things up a bit

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    Cool Re: 50 first dates - wanting to speed things up a bit

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    One more thing, You may not have been FZed, but you may have been BF zoned. Don't be surprised if she's not as receptive to sexual escalation next time.
    while this seems like an obvious statement, can you please elaborate on BF zone, i'm not gonna lie it's the first i've heard

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    Default Re: 50 first dates - wanting to speed things up a bit

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    **also im curious, did you even give her a hug?

    Every time I see her.


    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    i know, and i feel sorry for the wanderer here (y) but you don't just stick it in, kiss first :P

    That's part of the problem as well, as knowing she has mouth pain made me reluctant too. (and it is definitely real pain)


    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    I never said she's a lost cause. She is still very much in play according to what you have said, but won't be for long if you don't man the fark up!

    I like Chase Amante's approach to dating. If you get a girl in your place or her place, make a move within the first ten minutes. If you get her back to somewhere private, she's already somewhat open to a move and things can only go good. If you don't make a move you'll never know. If you make a move and she's not into it, waiting another hour probably wouldn't have made a difference.

    For a guy like you who clearly misses 100ft billboards advertising sexual Tension and desire, I think you should abide by this ten minute rule.

    Surely, I deserve that. And I mean that. But that was yesterday, so I can only go from today forward. 10 minute rule makes sense.

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    Default Re: 50 first dates - wanting to speed things up a bit

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    while this seems like an obvious statement, can you please elaborate on BF zone, i'm not gonna lie it's the first i've heard
    Yea, I mean, it's not a technical term. But basically, if he didnt make a move she may decide he's LTR material and become more hesitant to get sexual. Females tend to think that if the "give it up" too easily then it's more likely that the guy will disrespect her. If she thinks he's LTR material now (especially since he didnt try to make a move = nice guy), it may take longer to get her to escalate.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: 50 first dates - wanting to speed things up a bit

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    Yea, I mean, it's not a technical term. But basically, if he didnt make a move she may decide he's LTR material and become more hesitant to get sexual. Females tend to think that if the "give it up" too easily then it's more likely that the guy will disrespect her. If she thinks he's LTR material now (especially since he didnt try to make a move = nice guy), it may take longer to get her to escalate.

    Thanks for the clarification. That wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for me, really. I do like her. And I may also already be there.

    It did get me to thinking... 3/5 of my LTRs started with sex on the first face to face meeting. (And I'm kind of arbitrarily calling an LTR one year or more of exclusive dating.) The other 2 must have been 2nd or 3rd meeting.

    Right now, I have one primary dating relationship and a few other girls that come and go. I'm honest with all parties, although some want to know more details than others. If this particular girl and I wound up as friends, it would be something I'd sincerely value. That won't happen without her respecting me, but neither will anything else.

    I just responded with "me too -petname-, see you soon." There are no future plans at this point, but I'll let her get her things done and go from there.

    Thanks for your advice, and I'm happily accepting more from you guys, or anyone else who has thoughts to share.


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