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    Default Advice on where to go next

    So there is this girl that randomly messaged me on fb a couple months back. I'm not sure how she got my name but I figured she was my crazy ex making fake profiles which she had done before. Anyways we started messages and eventually texting. I wasn't exactly an asshole but was pretty short and she kept messages, and I told her I was too busy to meet. Eventually we met and it went well. She continued to text me. Sometimes all day. I'd respond but not right away and still kept my alpha attitude during the date (calling her out, negging, but also having a a playful fun time).

    So I asked her a couple times to hang out since, and generally the day of so sometimes she'd be busy. I asked her yesterday and she said she was going to a party and then out of town, but asked me about monday, which I wasn't sure. I don't want a text penpal, and she does seem interested but I'd kind of like to know . I told her yesterday to text me when she gets back (implies not everyday) so she responded oh you don't wanna text me anymore . I said, the better way to look at it , is that I wanna see you next week. I'm free tuesday.

    I'm debating should I send a v-day text. Keep in mind this is one of a bunch of other girls I'm talking too, but I'm prefer not to just get rid of her asap. Any advice ?

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    I think you are doing fine! Your reply was perfect. I sent all my ladies a "Happy Valentines Day!" text. If she gets chatty with the texts just stop responding. I try not to answer right away sometimes. It keeps them guessing. Answering right away every time lowers your value. There are some that I am not texting with much because once we have spent time together I want them to anticipate and look forward to time with me and not be a text buddy. My time is very valuable and I want them to crave it! If someone wastes my time they get no contact for a period of time. One of my MLTR's got the boot because I hadn't seen her for a month. It was hard to do this because I really enjoied spending time with her but I felt I had no choice because I'm not going to put up with someone that won't make time for me. She texts me every day now. She wants back in and I want her back but I won't consider that until she makes time for me.

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    So actually she texted me

    "omg you didn't text me for vday"

    I told her it was funny cause I was going to do it. She was complaining a little so I rather than be like (its your fault cause you said you were busy) I just said so are we hanging out tuesday or not? I figured enough bs she has a bunch of days to make herself free and she said something like she couldn't commit cause she didn't know when she was getting back in town.

    I'm debating asking her if she is just looking for a text buddy? Bad move? I know most guys on her would say just drop her but sometimes there can be misinterpretation in texts.

    What do you guys think?>

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    No one here would say drop her. But tell her that you're going to make other plans on tuesday if she can't commit.

    Also, when she texted you I would have replied:

    "WTF, where was my vday text?"
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    Thanks for the advice man. I guess I don't wanna play games.

    Originally it was me who din't wanna meet cause I didn't know who the F this girl was. Then we met on a tuesday. We texted me the next day, and all day et,cet,c. I live in a big city where everyone is "busy" so I get that since I ask her the day of it doesn't always mean she can hang out that day. I wouldn't be able too. But I asked her the following saturday, monday, and then asked her about the following tuesday when she gets back from the trip. I'm not being overly needy cause shes texting me all day and i'm still being alpha just. I'm just being more assertive like lets meet. She knows I'm super busy too and when asks about where I was the days she can't hang out I tell her I was out with people getting drinks,etc,etc.

    I'm just saying this is a girl who wants to text everyday, I've given her almost a full week to determine one of two days. Originally she said monday, then I suggested tuesday so I said lets hang either one of those days. The fact that I'm typing this shows I'm semi-into her(I connected to her on more a level than all the other girls I'm talking too).

    Rather than just ignore her and then have her text me, I'd was thinking of saying "are you just looking for a text buddy" and depending on what she says let her know I'm gonna walk away.

    Bad idea?

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    She is being controlling and manipulative. I would have texted her back saying "wow! Somebody needs more fiber in their diet! LOL". Who cares what she is looking for? You are an alpha male! Tell her what you are looking for. If she doesn't like it she will lose interest and you can focus on women that want what you want.

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    True but that part didn't bug me that bad. Whats a good way to tell her I'm not looking to be a text buddy in a non-asshole way. Let her know I'm willing to leave?

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    If you don't want her as a text buddy, be funny about it... be like,

    "To continue to text me, it will cost you... a drink or two, and for you to see my face in person... That is the cost of my awesome fun texting. Offer does expires."

    It shows your willing to be funny, but it also says that you don't only want to text.

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    Thats actually a good idea. I'm gonna use it on another girl. For this girl I gotta be more firm cause she'll just continue to text. got something stronger?

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    Default Re: Advice on where to go next

    Well I used that line and it worked good she responded sent some card and made some remark about making her pay. She thought I was serious. I told her I was joking, and that I didn't need a text buddy. No response .....went about my night partied.

    At one point hours later after lots of free drinks I probably screwed it up. Since this is a girl who is negative, and I wanted to make it clear ( if me asking for a date wasn't)

    so i said I'm looking for someone full of passion, with a lot of great energy. is that you?

    Nothing....Figure its time to move on or she won't respond. Seems weird if she wouldn't since this was an all day texter who sometimes was annoying me with it.But then again I can't play games


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