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    Default Maintaining Chemistry Apart

    In a relationship, particularly those that might be long distance relationships, how do you maintain the spark when you are both apart particularly early days?

    I've had a relationship, a year ago or so, in which we were really good together but as soon as we couldn't see each other for a week, the spark fizzled out. The relationship was in its early days and so perhaps the level hasn't been created which allowed the relationship to survive the time apart.

    So what can you do to manage the time apart more successfully?

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    Default Re: Maintaining Chemistry Apart

    I spent a year and half apart from a girl I'd been with for 7 years prior to that. As you can see, it worked out
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Maintaining Chemistry Apart

    These are 4 things Ive used to keep my long distance ladies attracted to me and only me. A couple may sound cheesy, but women love cheesy as long as it's thoughtful.

    1. When it comes to getting and keeping a 10, It is all about dialing up her attraction for you by dialing up the teasing, being cocky and funny, always saying no, being alpha times THREE!!! Never dial it down, never be a wussy, needy, nice guy! Sounds obvious but I've seen so many guys go from being alpha who are amazing with the ladies but find that one amazing girl get into a relationship, dial down the alpha, cocky funny attitude and wonder why she gives him the "let's just be friends" break up speech then winds up in the arms of a jerk, douchebag.

    So Always be alpha and follow these guidelines:
    - Always end the phone or Skype conversation first, yes Skyping is a great way to keep your interactions fun, real, and more intimate.
    - Always have her wanting to come back for more by ending the conversations when they are going great. Don't wait for it to fizzle out first.
    - Give her a cute nickname like Sparky!
    - Call everything she has ,does, and especially what she brags about as "cute, little". Like if she's a nurse and brags about it say "aww..look at you and your cute little job as a cute little nurse".
    - Convey and embed into stories that your the leader of men and that people look up to you.
    - Always be busy. When she calls, always be doing something else not just focused on her. Dont be afraid to not answer when she calls and call her back on YOUR TIME.
    - If she asks how you've been, tell her your life is the best it's ever been. Don't come off as bragging, just that your proud of yourself, your success, and mostly of the success of others in which you helped them create.
    - Most importantly be alpha, flirt and tease, and have a life outside of her. Remember, you are the center of HER universe, not the other way around. She's in YOUR reality.

    2. Text and sext game is huge! Study and practice text game. This site has some great text game material. You'd be amazed how effective it is. It is a great way to push those buttons of attraction throughout the day. Don't overdo it. Take awhile to respond to her texts. Convey that your always busy.

    Sexting is even better! There's nothing like getting a girl super turned on whenever you want. This is what romance novels do to women, there just words to men, but for women its like creating a romantic porno scene in her head where you and her are the stars! I used to sext a girlfriend of mine while she was at work. It was funny having her going nuts for me while at working as at a deli, and was so worked up she would jump on me when I walked in her house.

    3. Also, I like to get my women to have constant, reoccurring positive, warm and fuzzy feelings and emotions about me throughout the day. I do this by giving her something cool and kinda funny to wear like a watch the has LED lights that are great for wearing in the club and peacocking. I give them to my target after getting her number, walking her to her car, and kiss closing. Usually Ive given it to her earlier in the night to "borrow" the rest of the night, so when she leaves, I can use to get her coming back to me. Anyways, I tell her that she can continue to borrow it until we see each other again, if I don't call her, it's a soveigner to remember me by. They're just cheesy watches that I get for $5 each, however, the ladies not only LOVE them, but guess who they are thinking about each time they check the time throughout the day. All of those warm fuzzy feelings of attraction come rushing back just because she looked at the time!! Sounds crazy but trust me, it works every time! I just hope these girls wearing them don't run into each other...lol

    I mention this because I would suggest you send her something she can wear that has meaning, not something elaborate or expensive though, that expresses your style and personality, and most importantly creates an Anchor that will cause her to have reoccurring feelings of attraction all day, everyday. Make sure that whatever you send her, attach a note or a picture that will cause it to be an anchor of positive feelings of attraction.

    4. Send her a picture or a collage of pictures in a cool frame that she'll really like of you and her and have her put it on her nightstand beside her bed. Try to find pictures of the two of you looking and feeling happy together. The pictures should bring back great memories and feelings of attraction every time she looks at them. Being by her bedside, she will experience those feelings of attraction first thing in the morning and last thing before she goes to bed. Also, we typically dream about what we last feel just before falling asleep so her dreaming about you is a huge plus!

    Be spontaneous about it! Women love spontaneity so when sending her this stuff either don't tell her at all and surprise her altogether or tell her you're sending her a surprise, nothing major, just a surprise. She will love this. It is fun watching a girl get all excited, wondering, guessing, and trying to get you to tell her what it is. They love suspense! Whatever you do, no matter what tricks she tries, DON'T TELL HER!! Besides, her wanting to see if you'll give in and tell her is a test anyways!

    Give those a try and let us know how it works out!

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    Default Re: Maintaining Chemistry Apart

    ^ pretty solid advice right there (:

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    Default Re: Maintaining Chemistry Apart

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    ^ pretty solid advice right there (:
    Thanks! I went through a lot of years of hard work to learn and figure this stuff out. I love nothing more than creating attraction, seducing, teasing, flirting, f'ing and keeping 9s and 10s in my life. I took years to get where I am at, a ton of reading, researching, studying, and practicing to get here and still have a ways to go as the journey of evolving as a man never ends. Most of all. I enjoy sharing what I've learned and watching other men have success as well. That's when it really pays of and brings fulfillment.


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