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    Exclamation Is a girl losing interest or running game on me?

    Help!

    I've been seeing this girl after a comfortable few dates and then took her out with a group (speak she knows, some she doesn't) which seemed to go ok.

    She knows some friends of mine (female) who will have probably provide mixed reviews on me but at least some would be very good.

    Since then I've not got reply to a text. Well, I did originally after a day then then nothing since my reply. It was only something like asking how her new hours are at work blah blah.

    She sometimes (not always) takes a while to reply but never as long as now (4-5 days). Things were going pretty well and I definitely haven't came across needy or anything like that but now I'm not sure what to do.

    Do I break my cardinal rule and text her without receiving a reply?
    If I do, how do I approach the text without seeming a desperate twat?

    I'm pretty sure she is (or was) interested as we've kissed quite a few Iles but no f-close.

    Any ideas?

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    Default Re: Is a girl losing interest or running game on me?

    There are so many variables. There is really no concrete answer as to why she is behaving this way. It may not even have to do with you. So I wouldn't stress about it since it is out of your control.

    But you can control your texts to her. Disappearing only works depending on the circumstances. I talk with my gf everyday so when we don't talk for a day it feels like a week. It's all relative. But sitting and waiting for her to do something isn't what the typical confident man does. He takes action and goes for what he wants without apology. Not sitting in the corner waiting for her to refill his ego with something as simple as a text. (Mind you this isn't meant to criticize, but to give perspective)

    So one of my favorite (simple) things to do is to text her something that happened in your day that reminded you of her. One of the great things about this is that there are endless possibilities of what you can bring up.

    Another is that you can word it in a way that it doesn't require a response from her because you are simply sharing something with her. Like a Facebook wall.

    Lastly, it sends her a subtle message that you JUST thought of her rather than dwelling on her for that last few days. So share something funny or interesting in your day that reminds you of her and don't expect a response. Hope this helps and good luck.
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    Default Re: Is a girl losing interest or running game on me?

    Thanks for that.

    Needed another perspective on it and that seems like a good shout. I'll think of something tomorrow during the day and drop her a little text.

    Thanks again for your help

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    Default Re: Is a girl losing interest or running game on me?

    "Do I break my cardinal rule and text her without receiving a reply?" << ELIMINATE this as a "cardinal rule." This makes no sense at all and is a horrible rule.

    In the movie "13 Days" JFK was "brushed off" by the Russians over nuclear missles in Cuba and instead of dwelling on it, he just ignored the brush off and acted like it didn't even happen. If JFK used your rule, we'd all be dead.

    If a girl doesn't text me within a day or so I will:

    1) Be funny/agressive - text her and say "HEY GIRL, STOP IGNORING ME."

    - or -

    2) Be funny/creative -- text her and say "Stop chasing me."

    - or -

    3) Completely ignore that she didn't text you and ask her a question that elicits an opinion response - "Why the hell do women want me to be nice all the time? I'm a guy, I'm not supposed to be nice all the time."

    In any event, just change tactics and tone until you get a response. If nothing else, use it as an opportunity to practice being funny and simply eliciting responses from text.

    Don't stop until you get a response or until you just don't care anymore. But whatever you do, don't freak yourself out by thinking that there is some kind of rule that you should wait a certain period of time. The only rule that applies 100% of the time is that women always want to feel good. You can text her 30 seconds after you meet her or 30 days. If it's a text that is worth responding to, she will respond. If it's clingy or needy then you are just going to make it worse.
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    Default Re: Is a girl losing interest or running game on me?

    A good point well delivered there, thanks for that too.

    Being quite as direct as that is a little uncharacteristic with the angles I'm working with this one but there's lots to be taken on board with that and worked into my next move. Thanks again

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    Default Re: Is a girl losing interest or running game on me?

    Another option would be to just text her a 'cliffhanger' question, something like "Holy Sh1t, you'll never guess what just happened!!". That's bound to pique her curiosity and at least get her texting you back.

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    Default Re: Is a girl losing interest or running game on me?

    Quote Originally Posted by costarica View Post
    "Do I break my cardinal rule and text her without receiving a reply?" << ELIMINATE this as a "cardinal rule." This makes no sense at all and is a horrible rule.

    In the movie "13 Days" JFK was "brushed off" by the Russians over nuclear missles in Cuba and instead of dwelling on it, he just ignored the brush off and acted like it didn't even happen. If JFK used your rule, we'd all be dead.
    I think so too just don't let it get out of hand. The kind of behavior that warrants creep is blasting message after message with no response.

    I know for a fact I got in trouble with a cell phone glitch, where text messages were sending 3-4 times each..so I send what I think is 2 messages, which in-turn she received like 8 duplicates..the girl confronted me on this and I was just about ready to smash my phone . It wasnt me doing it purposesly but it made me look creepy and especially when I was running smooth and she called me out.. Explained the situation to her, everything was cool after, but its not a "cool" thing to happen when your in the progressing stages.

    Id recommend changing it up..go from texting to calling. Make sure she can talk(privacy) and call her. Just a different level of ability I think when it comes to texting vs voice communication. Plus as well some females may classify it as how much you think of her to call versus just texting....effort wise. A monkey can text, can a monkey talk?


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