Im kinda new here but I could really use the advice haha.
So I got myself into a bit of a sticky situation. Let me give you a bit of backstory here. I met someone a few months ago in my class in college. We share all the same classes. We hit it off really well. Problem is she has never been in a relationship before. She's grown this fear of intimacy and will use any excuse to avoid it. We get along really well. We share everything in common and our personalities are beyond a perfect match.
Anyways. She's been crazy about me for around 3 months. She cant even go a day without talking to me. She'll talk to me for hours on end(which amazes me because I'd usually be bored by now). I know shes's crazy about me because a) she's told me many times, b) she complained to me that she's jealous the other chicks in our class constantly want my attention and that she wants me to give her more of my time.
So we've talked for months but every time I make plans with her she gets ill or something comes up. But then a few days later she'll say she needs to see me. Fast forward to two days ago I asked her where we stood. I was a little sick of being lead on for so long.(this isn't the first time Ive asked her this). The first time I asked her she told me shes to scared for a relationship but doesn't want to lose me. This was a month ago. This time however she took a defeatist attitude and told me she wanted me to give up on her. This is right after she tells me shes glad Im the only guy who hasn't. I was drinking when this conversation happened and I basically got frustrated and told her that were done. That leading me on hurts like a bitch and that she wont get over this fear until she tries. She tried to reason with me that she'll be done school in two years and doesn't want to be tied down(more excuses for her fear even though we have talked about it before). It left with me basically telling her were done and her not responding. I know shes really beat up by it though, even if she wont admit it to anyone.
Basically guys, I dont want to let this one get away. Ive never met a person before that Ive had so much in common with. Currently we aren't talking because I said that but Im not sure what to do. Should I just move on or should I try to repair this and if repair it, how in gods name do I get a girl who's flat out in love with me to break out of her shell. Let alone how do I repair this. We havent spoken in a week if that matters.
Not sure if this matters either but she's very introverted and has trouble talking to men. Im one of the first men she's ever opened up to. She's told me Im one of the few people she trusts.
Thank you guys so much in advance for your help