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    Default What to do with this girl that hasn't responded?

    Hi everyone,

    I'm a new member to this forum and have been reading a few of these books along the way and am kind of new at this.

    Long story short, I met a girl at a bar, we danced, made out and exchanged numbers. Then we went on two dates, the first on a Sunday at a restaurant and the second on Valentine's Day for dinner and dancing at a club. On the second date we left the club around midnight because it was a working day the next day and I asked her to come upstairs to her place when I dropped her off and she didn't mind but after a bit ended up leaving as she was tired and we both had to wake up early the next day.

    We talked about possibly meeting up as a group the next day on friday and I texted her a couple times during the day without getting an answer. She texted once around 8pm before not replying to my text again. (she had a birthday party she was going to which she told me about the day before)

    She texted me the next day saying she was catching up and owes me a call since she didn't get back to me the prev night and I was cool with it. She was spending the remainder of the weekend with her parents so the last time I texted her back and forth was on Saturday and we kind of talked about hanging out again.

    On Monday night I called her and left a VM since she didn't pick up. Then today in the morning (tuesday) I sent her a simple text asking how the rest of her weekend was. She hasn't replied and it's been the whole day pretty much so she obviously has seen the text.

    My question to you guys is how should I take it from here?

    Thanks for any advice.

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    Default Re: What to do with this girl that hasn't responded?

    1. Stop dwelling on it. A day or two of a girl not responding means nothing. This is 100% in your head. She's probably just busy and has a busy life the past day or two.

    2. Realize that she is attracted to you already.

    3. Realize that calling, and then following up with a "nice guy" email can sometimes be construed as being a bit unmanly at first. I'm not saying not to do this, but be careful about being too nice early on simply because a girl can mistake that for your inability to be "a real man". It's a very fine line, and there is never a true rule on when it's okay to start just being "the nice guy." A good rule of thumb however is after you are sleeping with her, because at that point, many of her value judgements of you have been made and it's WAY harder to turn a girl off the further you get with her sexually.

    3. Realize that even self-questioning this stuff is bad for your self-identity. You have to know, and believe, that you are a MAN and that women are going to not only be attracted to you, but that they will stay attracted to you. If you truly believed this, you'd either not care about a few days of her not texting or you'd text her and say "hey girl, your horoscope says you are going to meet one hot ass hunk of a man this month. obviously that's me. come and get some." << probably overly-cocky and funny, but my point here is simply that you must focus on what is causing you not to have confidence in yourself to just rise about this time-limitation shit. someone not texting for a couple days out of the blue means absolutely, positively nothing.
    - CR

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    Default Re: What to do with this girl that hasn't responded?

    Thanks for the advice costarica. I'll hold back for a couple days and call her or text her something funny.

    Ps. That opening text about the horoscope was genius lol. Will definitely be using it one way or another.

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    Default Re: What to do with this girl that hasn't responded?

    So I called her the other night after I got out of work, no answer. Didn't leave a voicemail instead just sent her a playful text about our next date and to call me so we can talk about it and no answer to that either.

    So I'm sensing she's not really into it.. which doesn't make much sense because last time she texted me back she was very apologetic for not calling the night before.

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    Default Re: What to do with this girl that hasn't responded?

    Quote Originally Posted by trend123 View Post
    So I called her the other night after I got out of work, no answer. Didn't leave a voicemail instead just sent her a playful text about our next date and to call me so we can talk about it and no answer to that either.

    So I'm sensing she's not really into it.. which doesn't make much sense because last time she texted me back she was very apologetic for not calling the night before.
    cause you're texting her like every friggin day man.

    Just leave it be for a week, if she contacts you, immediately set up a date, don't mess it up texting

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    Default Re: What to do with this girl that hasn't responded?

    The funny thing is I've barely texted her.. only once on tuesday and once yesterday. Whatever though, I'll give her a week see what happens.


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