Original Story I typed up 8 days ago:
I need some advise, met this girl about 3 months ago, we had an amazing connection which I've never had with someone friend or more. We have been basically **** buddies/friends and taking things slow because neither of us wanna rush into a relationship.
We spent nearly every day together for the first month then realised it was way too much so had a bit more time apart which is when things got even better. We spent a week apart when she went away and she missed me like crazy. We had a good chat and decided we would like more but again we're not gonna rush it. 5 days ago we went away for the weekend, spent 5hrs straight in the car talking about us and she said countless amount of nice things. Met her family that weekend and she seemed fine, her family is going through a lot so she keep sneaking kisses etc when she could.
So everything still seemed great 2 days ago, seen her last night and could tell something was off, we were both very tired though. Talked to her today and she said she only wanted to be friends and doesn't see me in the relationship way.. I can't understand how this all changes over night basically.
I know there's no other guy involved, and she did say from the start she wasn't ready for a relationship but she said all that stuff 5 days ago..
In the past 8 days I've seen her once for about a 30minute lunch thing, everything went well and neither of us spoke about anything that'd happened, since we did only have 30 mins. We spoken via text message every day but only 2-4 texts each per day when before that it was a lot more. I've been trying to give her some space and have only text her initially once, all the other times it's been from her doing.
We had planned to goto a music festival together about 2 months ago and she told me last night she still wanted to go there with me.
I need some advice on where to go from here.
These are my thoughts, I can;
Try to be even more absent
Try to say something like "so when are we going to create some mischief together again stranger" - showing I'm not happy with how much we've seen each other and if I get to see her then I can create that spark we have again.
Either way some of you guys are very good at this side of things, so please give me as much advice as possible, I'm new to this side of things. I'm better at creating the attraction and with this one I think we got too close too soon and that's why she has gotten scared and done a full 180.