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    Default She won't commit to a 2nd date

    One of the girls I've been texting wont' commit to a second date. She knows I'm alpha and mature but for some reason is scared to say no or is just playing games.

    She'll avoid when I mention hanging out, but other times wants to message me etc. AT the same time she is interested in asking me what I'm doing how i'm feeling, and has shown some interest and ioi when when hung out.

    If I have been friendzoned should I just tell her nah I don't need friends I'm moving on. Lots of posts say not to do this but I don't need a bunch of girls sending me texts about all their little problems.I'd basically like to say hey either go out or I'm gone, and if that scares you I don't really give a f.

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    Default Re: She won't commit to a 2nd date

    So be up front with her, but don't assume you are friend zoned. She might just not be sure where you stand.

    Let me ask you, how physical did things get on date #1?

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    Default Re: She won't commit to a 2nd date

    We had randomly been messaging she was very forward with wanted to get my number, hang out,etc,etc. It wasn't officially a date. I was very alpha, kept pushing her away until finally I agreed. We hung out lots of touching and closeness, not anything you'd ever do with a friend or a stranger you just met. I think she was surprised that I wanted to hang out with her again. She has trust issues from her last relationship.

    I asked her to hang out and made it clear it was a date. Why? Cause in the past I told her I wasn't interested in dating, and she may have had this player idea about me.

    She went out of town for a funeral, didn't answer me came back we texted a lot. I've asked several times to hang out again. Not in a needy way either. I'm kind of sick of the loop.

    Where we stand is I have asked her to chill she won't address it get back to me, but still continues to text me.

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    Default Re: She won't commit to a 2nd date

    Thanks for the rundown. You could be right about her seeing you as a player. Whatever, you're awesome and you don't need to take her shit.
    I would respond to her texts one last time:

    "You know what, I am old fashioned and all this texting is getting old. Meet me at xxxx"

    I think that's pretty direct. It's a bit of an ultimatum without having to tell her you don't need another friend. You can just ignore her after this if she keeps on contacting you.

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    Default Re: She won't commit to a 2nd date

    Quote Originally Posted by Fuser View Post
    Thanks for the rundown. You could be right about her seeing you as a player. Whatever, you're awesome and you don't need to take her sh1t.
    I would respond to her texts one last time:

    "You know what, I am old fashioned and all this texting is getting old. Meet me at xxxx"

    I think that's pretty direct. It's a bit of an ultimatum without having to tell her you don't need another friend. You can just ignore her after this if she keeps on contacting you.
    Thanks man. I think now she doesn't think I am, and does this i'm interested in her. I've given a lot of push and pull. I negged her last time about how I don't need a text buddy. She went out of town, and decided to be nice offer her an ear since funerals are tough.

    I was sick she kept on asking how I was feeling. I said when I'm am better lets do something next week. She goes fun? good night drink tea,etc,etc. Next day I ignore her she asks how I am feeling. Our schedules are a little hectic so I ask her when she is free? No response now for a day.

    I've already expressed to her that if shes not into me I'm not gonna cry and I'm very matter of fact. Either she is afraid of getting hurt, or too scared to tell me.

    Due to our city, lives its not so easy to be like meet me here cause we have obligations, etc, but I'd like something similar to say cause this shit is getting old

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    Default Re: She won't commit to a 2nd date

    I have a similar problem. I dated a girl and the first date went really well though it was rather short due to logistics, but we had good chemistry. She was almost bragging about herself during conversation, but in a polite way (I think she was trying to gain my approval validation,I guess). We hugged a couple times and she even beat me to the kiss close (she initiated the kiss). The next day I texted her and told her I had fun and she said the same. I got her to send me a funny picture a few days later because I was bored.

    I proposed a second date, but she ignored my text, no response. She did this before. I got her to go on the first date by being consistent, but I am debating on how long I should wait before asking her out. I haven't texted her since I proposed that second date, which was three days ago.

    There is a major logistical problem with her. She is a single mother and since she is new in town and doesn't know anybody she has a hard time finding someone to watch her kid. But if that is the reason why wouldn't she just say so?

    Any advice?


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