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    Default EXCHANGED numbers.. When to initiate?

    Hi All.. A thought I've been playing around with for a little while is this, after you have actually exchanged numbers with a HB, when do you think you should initiate that first text? Obviously, you aren't texting to say 'nice to meet, here's my number, catch you soon' etc.. because she already knows your number.

    Does this throw the school of thought re: texting the same day out of the window, or do you think you should still proceed, but incorporate a different angle of chat? perhaps refer to something you chatted about when you met? tell her to ensure she's got your number saved, etc..?

    This is a current dilemma of mine, so if you get my point and have any thoughts, do reply!! :-)

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    Default Re: EXCHANGED numbers.. When to initiate?

    When I Number Close I always get them to text themselves off of my phone when they put their number in. So that's normally text no. 1.

    As for text 2, or the re-engage text, I normally tend to wait at least a day. There is a range and you have to judge the situation.

    The first text should come between 1-3 days of getting the number... though 3 is probably pushing it.

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    Default Re: EXCHANGED numbers.. When to initiate?

    Nice one, cheers for the input Sidewinder. From previous experiences I've pretty much already come to the conclusion that same-day texting in this situation is a no-no!

    Also, I was actually out running through town this morning when I saw 'this' girl (solid HB 9 Blonde), I did a fair amount of negging / teasing and lead her to the point of saying to me "so I should take your number then?" I didn't have my phone on me- she gave me her phone and I gave myself a missed call.

    I've #closed with surprisingly good success when out running! Must be the endorphins / projecting the image of being fit and healthy!

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    Default Re: EXCHANGED numbers.. When to initiate?

    I believe that you text as soon as you (1) absolutely know (have the confidence that), (2) you can elicit a response, (3) that is (4) positive, (5) attractive.

    Waiting 3+ days makes it harder, because the initial attraction fades and because she may have moved on.

    In theory, most long-timers usually have stories of texting a girl out of the blue and saying, "hey. I found this number in my phone from 7 months ago. were you the midget striper that i had sex with at at chuck-e-cheese in the mouse trap???" and then getting laid from some they completely never texted or called.

    but most will find that the girl has already moved on.
    - CR

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    Default Re: EXCHANGED numbers.. When to initiate?

    Quote Originally Posted by forestred_12 View Post
    Hi All.. A thought I've been playing around with for a little while is this, after you have actually exchanged numbers with a HB, when do you think you should initiate that first text? Obviously, you aren't texting to say 'nice to meet, here's my number, catch you soon' etc.. because she already knows your number.

    Does this throw the school of thought re: texting the same day out of the window, or do you think you should still proceed, but incorporate a different angle of chat? perhaps refer to something you chatted about when you met? tell her to ensure she's got your number saved, etc..?

    This is a current dilemma of mine, so if you get my point and have any thoughts, do reply!! :-)
    Text same day no beef. I have waited 1 day, 3 days, etc. But I have noticed the absolute best method is to text same day about a random rant or something you think is funny. I have been having HB's chasing me down when trying this. I am starting to believe HB's live very much in the moment and if you follow the 3 day rule or even wait 1 day too much time is passed and all the positive feelings have to be re-established.

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    Default Re: EXCHANGED numbers.. When to initiate?

    How do you Number Close while running? When I'm running I'm like, "Fuck you, this is me time."
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: EXCHANGED numbers.. When to initiate?

    See, I toyed with the idea of same-day texting her, but for a couple of minor reasons I left it til the following morning / lunchtime.

    I'll re-initiate over the weekend at some point if I've still not had a reply. Though to be honest, I'm now of the mind to not chase at all if there's no reply to the initial salvo!

    Re: when out running- Its half the fun of going out running! I run 13-15k 2/3 times a week, and its nice to have a little breather every now and then. What better way to do it than when you see a hot girl - I'll do a simple 'yad' style stop, or just basically stop her, tell her I think she looks nice, build some rapport / attraction then get her number before leaving her with a sweaty hug.
    They always smile / enjoy it.


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