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    Default What to say next

    Pretty much, I made out with this girl, who got very sexual when dancing, but didn't want to go further (freakin tease)... So I texted her later and said "I know you had fun but don't text and call me every 5 minutes" and she replied "I'm not like that" probably meaning she's not like sexual like that... which I know is true because her friend pulled me aside tonight and told me she was a virgin and wouldn't hook up with me... how do I respond?

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    Default Re: What to say next

    Don't bother yourself with her, it's pretty clear that it's not going anywhere. I'd advise to move on from that situation and look for other girls. Unless you're interested in a relationship and not just to hook up, but I'm not sure what your intentions are, what is it you are trying to accomplish? As for just how to respond, I'd say to reassure her. Something like "It's alright, I just want to get to know you better." This is just an example, make it more interesting, make it funny, add your own flare to it so it's not so bland, you get the idea. Good luck.
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    Default Re: What to say next

    Quote Originally Posted by Thatoneguyonforums View Post
    Don't bother yourself with her, it's pretty clear that it's not going anywhere. I'd advise to move on from that situation and look for other girls. Unless you're interested in a relationship and not just to hook up, but I'm not sure what your intentions are, what is it you are trying to accomplish? As for just how to respond, I'd say to reassure her. Something like "It's alright, I just want to get to know you better." This is just an example, make it more interesting, make it funny, add your own flare to it so it's not so bland, you get the idea. Good luck.
    Disagree with not bothering yourself. When you're learning you should always bother yourself. If you don't how will you get better. You can take two approaches to this:

    (1) If you think she's really innocent you can take the respectful approach suggested above; or

    (2) If you want to test boundaries, use this moment to show some social proof, and maybe be a little humorous, say something about how the last girl you gave your number to before her wouldn't stop harrassing you.
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    Default Re: What to say next

    Thanks guys. No response back from her... I coulda tried a little harder to f-close but it's whatever, moving on from it.

    I still consider it a good night because I did feel confident and not nervous about going up to any girl at the party. Made out with 2 in one night, which only happened to me one other time on halloween, when I had a wingman. I was solo last night.

    I was moving pretty fast just to test some thing out. If a girl walked by me I would say "Are you trying to rub up against me?" Then, I would say "It's ok if you are." or something like "You don't have to be shy about it." Then I would talk a little, or other times I would go right into looking in her eyes and saying "You have this look in your eyes like you really want to kiss me" One girl called me cocky, I forgot how I responded to that because I was hammered. One girl gave resistance and said I don't even know you, so I said my name, and said "Now you know me" and immediately started kissing. But anyway, I did move kinda fast to push the limits.

    Any feedback on my "routine"? Should I take it a little slower next time? Anything you would change or add? Keep in mind this was a college party where everyone was drunk and loud music was going. I coulda kissed 5 different girls had I not been blocked by the girls friend or random losers

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    Default Re: What to say next

    When you move right in for a k-close and pass several steps it can often become difficult to go anywhere else with the interaction, especially if you don't f-close that night. A girl who starts kissing a guy without having appropriate attraction and comfort will often develop buyer's remorse after the interaction has ended (this likely happened here). If you've read the Mystery Method, this is what he refers to as the Fool's Game. It basically means that you can often escalate an interaction very quickly, and sometimes this will even lead to an F-Close, but if you want to gain consistency in your game you can't do this because it doesn't work consistently.
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    Default Re: What to say next

    I know I skipped a lot of steps. Normally I wouldn't but I just wanted to see if I could last night. Didn't consider buyer's remorse though. I'll remember that next time

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    Default Re: What to say next

    Don't get me wrong, what you did is great. Skip steps because it helps you learn boundaries and see what you can get away with. The only way to get better at anything is to practice and experiment. So great job!
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