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    Default "I want to show you something"

    What is the correct attitude to take when a girl wants to show you something; whether it be a romantic movie she loves, or a beautiful scenic view she found from the top of her building?

    This is obviously her investing in you.

    But the, part of me questions if it's displaying beta behavior to let her show all these things to you all the time. This sort of sounds insane that I would be worried about allowing her to invest and share those things with me, but when I think about girls I've dated, the ones who would let me share everything with them, were the ones I got more easily bored of, compared to the ones who would show disinterest and resist it until I tried hard to convince them—and so where it would happen less frequently—the more it would mean to me, and thus the more I'd invest in her. And I think that works both ways.

    So should we sometimes act disinterested at romantic gestures and make her work hard to show them to us? It seems to make sense, at least in the situations where she isn't working very hard to sell it to you, to make her work a little harder.

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    Default Re: "I want to show you something"

    Last time a girl told me that she "wanted to show me something", she shoved a banana up into her vagina and shot it back out in pieces. Scared the sh1t out of me, but it was pretty awesome.

    To answer your question, yes. What you are thinking of right now is the Push-Pull method. You show interest and build attraction with her, and then you withdraw and let her try to come and get you. It doesn't just matter in a situation like this, it matters all the time. If you are constantly chasing her, or she is constantly chasing you, then things just get boring. There has got to be a balance.

    Don't be worried about getting invited to see something that is special to her. This would be a great time to build rapport and attraction. In the end, if you play your game smoothly, there is really nothing to worry about here
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    Default Re: "I want to show you something"

    Yeah when a girl gets excited and wants to show you something, if you just straight up dismiss her because you want to be "ALPHA" it just makes you look like an ass. Make it apparent that you have something important to do, but you can join her later. But I understand the Push Pull method and how this relates, do it, but make sure you do it right.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: "I want to show you something"

    This isn't a scenario for Push-Pull. Unless the behavior you are describing is needy, then this is a positive behavior and should be rewarded. Never push against a positive behavior because you'll be enforcing that you don't like that behavior.

    Push-Pull relates to your behavior, not hers. When you push she should chase. When she chases, this is a positive behavior and you should reward her. Push-Pull has nothing to do with reinforcing her behaviors, it's just a technique of modifying your behaviors to increase her attraction, for instance, by showing IOIs and then showing disinterest.

    But please, DO NOT punish her for a positive behavior.
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