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Thread: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

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    Default How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    I was doing really well with this girl and went on a short, but very successful date where we kissed. The next day we texted each and we both said we had fun. I texted her a couple times after that and the following weekend I asked her out and got no response. Last week I tried to get her excited to see me again so i told her I wanted to show her something. She said that maybe we could hang out this weekend. I texted her last Friday and Saturday if she wanted to do anything. On Saturday I told her (jokingly) to stop playing hard to get and I invited her to an event I was going to with my friends. Again no response.

    Before I screwed things up further I decided the best course of action would be to lay low for a while. I think she stills likes me because I she never said anything bad like stop texting me or anything. Maybe I moved to quickly after the first date? All I did was ask her out two more times I though consistency would be good. It did take me a while to get her out of the first date and she did the no response thing before. But I am starting to get worried because she seems more distant this time.

    How long should I stay off her radar? Before I was texting her every 3-4 days except for when I was handling logistics. When it is time to reinitiate contact, how should I do it? Should I wait for her to contact me?

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    Don't get too caught up with this girl just because you had one good date. I would suggest seeing other girls and hopefully she sees that you have other options and are pre-selected by other women. I've had dates with girls that went well but that doesn't always mean she will be up for second one just yet. If everything went well and you play it right, she should want to see you again. Just sit back, relax, and keep gaming other women! Best of luck!

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    I agree with Wildman, don't get too caught up on this one. Honestly, she probably isn't all that excited about seeing you again or she wouldn't be making it so hard for you. Or maybe she's going on some dates with another dude. Either way, cut how much you're talking to her in half and get with some other chicas

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    Well I stopped talking to this girl for three weeks. She didn't attempt to contact me once. I reinitiated conversation with her and asked if she wanted to talk on the phone. She said yes and I called and she didn't answer.

    I have since texted her once a week (I was previously doing once every three days). She just won't invest anything in this at all. Does this mean she isn't interested? Or am I still at the point that I have to do all the work?

    *rant*
    I have been trying to game other women. I am getting a little bit better, but I have a problem. It's starting to feel like work and the energy I have to put into it draining me. Today I was talking to girl that works in the office at my apartment complex. She liked me, I could tell. I should have tried to game her, but I just didn't feel like it so I just ended our conversation and walked away. The same thing happens with a girl at my gym.

    I don't want to have to think or try. I just want to go on a date or take the girl home and not think about what to say, not worry about my body language, tone of voice, volume ect.

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    i had that problem before
    You see it depend on your situation,For instance if you were actually hanging out with her constantly and now she is giving you a cold shoulder then just give her a month or so, and just give her a spontaneous Invitation to do something fun and amazing(meaning not getting coffee, cuz coffee dates are lame as Sh1t its fine if you are already there and randomly pick up a girl there ,but don't take a girl to the most boring day of her life). that shows that you are down to earth kinda person and you don't get butt hurt and super attached (remember girls need space until they fall in love)(and then you need space once they do )
    But if you just met her and hanged out with her maybe one day or few nights, its probably best to just leave her alone ,and start fresh with someone new ,since she is having buyers remorse . And realized that she made a mistake (which happens , so better luck next time)

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    Yea you're right Kiesa. That's probably what it is.

    Things escalated really quickly with this girl and I really thought that I found someone, so it's so hard to just stop and start over. I guess my problem is that I really don't enjoy sarging and I can think of million other things I'd rather be doing. However, I spent my whole life not paying any attention to my social life and I am very lonely now because of it.

    Maybe I should take a break and rest for a while so I can work up a desire to sarge.

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    NO don't give up! you are saying how your social life is going down to gutter and you want to quit?
    what is the reason you pick up the books in the first place ,or registering for this site in the first place ?
    i tell you why its because you were concentrating on other thing in your life !
    AND NOW IS TIME TO CONCENTRATE ON GETTING YOUR SOCIAL LIFE BACK AND MAKING YOU HAPPY !
    No one likes sarging at first ! it really sucks
    you afraid to approach anyone , but it does get better . all you have to do is get rid of your ego
    and not give two Sh1ts of what other people think and that slowly builds your confidence !
    i suggest finding a wingman or a buddy to sarge with and just make it a game!
    and remember the 3 second rule ( its a rule for a reason) that way you don't get so nervous
    also you can just learn magic tricks and just don't even try sargin at first just learn how to approach and just get used to being put on the pressure
    for instance sit down at a busy park in--------- and just do tarro card by yourself and as girls walk by tell them basic cold reading and they get interested as long as you don't forget to mention that its free . and you can even go to instant dates , (love life cards ,say you meet someone new and blah blah blah , scoop up your card and say 'i guess the cards are talking about me " and take it from there )
    you see maybe you just need to try day game instead , some people actually find it easier then night game since their guard shields are down , and maybe do it in a place where no one knows you so are less shy!

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    Don't worry I was just venting. I am not gonna give up. I just need to accept that this thing is kind of a numbers game and that I'm not always gonna win.

    I think I'm just gonna tell this girl "look you have my number, if you want to ever do anything, call me". Am I expecting a response? No, but if does great, if not I don't care.

    Thanks for your support.

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    Don't send that message. It looks like you're trying to guilt her into actually making contact with you. I think it would be better if you sent a message along these lines:

    "Hey, I've been doing some thinking, and I would have to say that I am really not grooving on this at all. So I think it would be best if we were just friends"

    This message is the ultimate "what the fark?" on her part. Women are not used to getting messages like this, and she will be extremely confused on what you mean and why you say it. She will attempt to contact you to figure out what is going on. Do not respond and give her the cold shoulder for at least 24 hours. Then you can respond with something that asserts yourself in higher standing. Don't explain yourself though. You don't need to explain anything, it's her that needs to do it.

    If this is not the case, then oh well. You asserted yourself and left her in a higher standing than the other way. In other words, either way you win.

    Just because you have had a few bumps in the road does not mean you should quit. By continuing to obsess over your desire for success, you will only impede yourself and bring about more suffering. The key to feeling great is to eliminate your desires and just let things happen. Since I've started doing this, I have been successful with three different women in TWO DAYS! Take the energy you funnel into your desires and put it into taking the necessary paths to conquer it.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: How Long to Stay Off Her Radar and How to Reinitiate?

    Quote Originally Posted by Loudou View Post
    I don't want to have to think or try. I just want to go on a date or take the girl home and not think about what to say, not worry about my body language, tone of voice, volume ect.
    I don't like this, why because if you don't want to think you'll just let your feelings get in the way, next thing you know you'll start doing threads you like this girl.

    Thing is in pick up, if you don't think what you say at times somethings can just go out and be miss-understood by girl, you don't have to think about all of it. Just the basic, ''she's having fun okay'' Bam done. If you don't feel like gaming, why are you gaming, right ?

    But in your situation really, I would back off and go see other women. A girl who is attracted to you, comes back. Some girls like to be chased, that might be the case. I dislike chasing women from now on, knowing how I can be (Easy to fall in love :3) I back up and holla at some other girls, works great because after that I could go talk to her later on and voila, fixed.

    Also if you haven't noticed Kissing is an ioi is just interest. It doesn't mean ''OH I WUB YOU' MUAW MUAW MUAW'' It is! If you check out videos of guys just asking girls to kiss them, the girls actually do. Cause its damn straight forward (aaaand.. relies on looks at times, you're still a stranger)
    ablindman's new account, pm me if you need help.


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