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Thread: To anyone ever curious about how to text a girl, read this post

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    Default To anyone ever curious about how to text a girl, read this post

    I've seen so many shitty posts on text game, I decided I would lay to rest all the misconceptions and poor advice by giving some actual USEFUL advice.

    So many other posts I've flipped through summarize texting as unimportant, or merely a tool to schedule and confirm a date. This is completely the opposite of the truth. The vast majority of girls LOVE texting FREQUENTLY. They do it all day long with their friends. If they're in a relationship, usually they do it all day long with their boyfriends. There's no reason why you shouldn't be texting back and forth the same way. Of course there are exceptions, some girls are busy and don't have time to exchange 100 texts a day. But still, if they're interested they will make the attempt when they have time and will appreciate the thought.
    Let's say you meet a girl on a Thursday night at a bar and schedule a date for Sunday. That's all day Friday and Saturday that she won't be seeing you or talking to you. By the time Sunday rolls around, do you really think she's looking forward to seeing a guy she just met at the bar three days ago when she was drunk? NOPE. Chances are good she will flake by the time Sunday rolls around if you haven't stoked the flame somehow either via text or actual phone coversation. Or she'll go on the date and be generally apathetic about it.

    Texting is momentum. If you have no momentum, your date will start off slow and awkward, because lets face it: you're basically complete strangers. If you DO have momentum, you'll both be walking into the date "in state" because you're looking forward to the date and you've become acquainted and even more attracted to the other person through text messages.

    What the fuck should I text her?

    Text her e-card memes. Ask her what she's doing right now. Ask her what she's wearing right now, followed by telling her you're wearing a revealing sexual outfit (silly but setting the sexual groundwork). BE AMBIGUOUS. Make her wonder whether you were being sexual or not. Give her soft-tosses for sexual convo. If she asks what you're doing right now, "I'm about to get nekkid and hop into the shower."
    If she reciprocates in kind, she's interested. If she reciprocates and even initiates texting on her own, she's seriously interested. If she gives one-line response or responds infrequently, just ask her straight-up: "I'm not feelin' the love here, I'm throwing in the towel unless you give me a good reason why an awesome guy like me should stick around (add winky face or some emoticon bullshit)." Remember, YOU'RE the one who needs to be convinced that SHE is awesome. You already know you're awesome, right? If she's interested, she will apologize profusely and change behavior, if not, move on.
    There's plenty more to be said, but that's a start at least and a huge improvement over the other dumb shit I've seen on this website

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    Default Re: To anyone ever curious about how to text a girl, read this post

    Have you heard of the concept of scarcity? ONE good reason not to text a lot. A SECOND good reason is that it's incongruent. If you're the catch she should be texting you and you should be making her wait for your responses.

    There are dozens of reasons to not text excessively.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: To anyone ever curious about how to text a girl, read this post

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    Have you heard of the concept of scarcity? ONE good reason not to text a lot. A SECOND good reason is that it's incongruent. If you're the catch she should be texting you and you should be making her wait for your responses.

    There are dozens of reasons to not text excessively.
    +1.
    Texting is definitely a deadly weapon but should not be used excessively. You want to be (or at least appear) busy and let her do most of the chasing. If you text too much you don't give her opportunity to miss you.
    I like to mix it up e.g. some days text a lot, some days not at all. And also varying the time between your replies is also good.

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    Default Re: To anyone ever curious about how to text a girl, read this post

    How do you actually get them to chase you through text though??... I get replies almost right away no problem, most of my shit is funny and interesting, but I do have days were I just bomb, with days of NC in between, followed be re-ignition.

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    Default Re: To anyone ever curious about how to text a girl, read this post

    I'm working on an approach to escape friend zone with a woman.

    So far my starting block is ICE. What does that mean?

    Intrigue
    Connection
    Emotion

    I think you need to work on establishing at least two of these three each time you text, with an opener.

    I'm learning that statements are there to not receive a reply, unless you leave them ambiguous or open ended. You simply tell her something, she likely reads it, thinks 'oh, ok' and then gets back on with her day. There is no hook, no intrigue and any connection is stated, you're not encouraging her to create the feeling of connection herself.

    Connection instead is created by sending texts like....

    'Do you know what I like about you?' - she will likely want to know, which causes intrigue and there is connection there. You can then come up with any answer you like from...that you're good fun and always bring something new to the conversation etc

    By saying that, you encourage her to be fun as she feels the social pressure, you've called her fun and she wants to live up to that persona.

    You could alternatively say that she likes dogs, and you've always liked dogs and then ask her her favourite breed, or make a joke about how good it would be to own Scooby Doo.

    Alternatively you can text for her advice on something. They way, she may well respond and get invested in the outcome.

    I'm going to write more on this subject, including texting patterns, other subjects to use and how to develop the connection. There is still a good chance that the pair of you will remain friends but hopefully, if there's a way out of the Zone, this will open the door.


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