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Thread: Just finished 1st date...now what?

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    Default Just finished 1st date...now what?

    Hello gents, so we had our first date last night, she came to my house, we went out for coffee and came back to my house drank our coffees and played some pool. Had a fun time, pretty good conversation the whole evening and towards the end of the evening we chilled on the couch and watched TV. When we sat down together she put her purse in between us so I couldn’t get closer (not that she was far away)to her which kinda threw me off, also there was very little physical contact all night, which was all initiated by me. I walked her to her car she gave me a hug and I went inside. She text me later that night saying she had a good time and she is always down to play some pool. I know she got out of a long relationship somewhat recently, so I'm trying to figure out if she is just taking it slow...which is fine, or friend zoning me..
    Thoughts, opinions?
    Last edited by RussellJ; 03-06-2013 at 04:07 PM. Reason: mis spelled words

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    Default Re: Just finished 1st date...now what?

    Build comfort & keep flirting with her.
    Don't be too over the top of overtly sexual with it, but more of a playful, fun kind of thing.

    Gradually escalate each time you see her.

    She probably wants to make sure she can trust you, seeing as she just got out of a long-term relationship.

    But you can avoid the friend zone for sure.
    Some girls just take a little longer to warm up.



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    Default Re: Just finished 1st date...now what?

    take more risks, be more flirty. make her forget that she just got out of a long relationship. right now you sound more like her gay friend then anything.

    dont be scared of failing with girls. its a tough road ahead but theres light at the end of the tunnel

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    Default Re: Just finished 1st date...now what?

    That is my guess t mal, she’s a smart, confident, ambitious girl, what are some flirty ideas to throw at her.

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    Default Re: Just finished 1st date...now what?

    What has she messaged you since? Has she not told you whether you are going for a second date? Or if you are being friend zoned?

    The purse thing is slightly concerning as it represents a barrier being out between you both. Hope you had lots of connection whilst playing pool? In my mind that's the perfect time for Kino. You can gently nudge her when she's about to play a shot, or help her to play a shot etc

    Kino is definitely needed on a first date, it's the difference between being mates & being more. You can enjoy a night together and get in the comfort zone, or have the fleeting touches and feel more of a buzz.

    See what happens and, if neither of you have showed your second card dates, why not suggest something?

    These are my thoughts, I could be off the mark as my own situation is flagging but..

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    Default Re: Just finished 1st date...now what?

    Flirting is basically teasing/bantering/razzing...

    Like when you play pool with her, give her a hard time when she misses an easy shot.

    Or if she makes one, say something like "No way... you're OBVIOUSLY cheating somehow! Lemme see that cue-stick.." Then smile & nudge her with your elbow.

    Or before she takes a shot, say, "There's no flippin' way you're gonna make this one!!"

    Or make little bets with her...
    "Tell ya what, you make this shot & I'll give you a foot rub." (Can you say "Kino"??)

    Little things like that, are the best way to put a girl at ease & get her having fun!


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    Default Re: Just finished 1st date...now what?

    Of course I was doing all that flirty stuff, I shoulda been more touchy feely all night which I wasn't until the end of the night, shes got some tats so i took her arm and inspected them for a bit, which she seemed to enjoy. Im pretty sure we are going to get together on Sunday. She and her room mates are having ppl over for breakfast then going to a st. patricks parade. She asked me what I was doing for it and I told her I donno, I'm prob going out with my boys and THEN she told me she was going to have ppl over etc. So the next time I talk/text her I'm just going to ask her straight up do you want me to go with you guys. I'm 99% sure she's goign to say yes or "if you want to" which will aggrivate me ha. we shall see.


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