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    Default Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    Ok so everything's been going well so far with this girl on POF, but now she's asked me the "What are you looking for on this site?" question and previously, I've just been honest and said "In the long term, a relationship." However, I'm pretty sure this is the worst thing I could possibly say, so what should I be saying to keep her keen?

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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    My answer is "To meet some cool people and see where it goes from there."
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    "Hmmm I'll say this. I'm one of those people that believes it foolish to look for something and even more foolish to overlook something special if you find it."

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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    Thanks guys, took on both your suggestions and came up with:

    "I'm not looking for anything specific, but if something special happens I think it'd be foolish to ignore it."

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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    Quote Originally Posted by Suave Kino View Post
    "Hmmm I'll say this. I'm one of those people that believes it foolish to look for something and even more foolish to overlook something special if you find it."
    Suave you're the fucking man! This is pua gold. Someday I'll be there, haha.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    Suave you're the farking man! This is pua gold. Someday I'll be there, haha.
    Thanks, Duke. That's much appreciated. I can't wait until you guys see and or hear my infield pickups. It's gonna be hot.

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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    Golden response, Suave. (30 char)
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.

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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    I would have said something like,

    You...

    Or, I found it, rather, she found me.

    Then put that same question back in her face!

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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    Quote Originally Posted by 24seven View Post
    Thanks guys, took on both your suggestions and came up with:

    "I'm not looking for anything specific, but if something special happens I think it'd be foolish to ignore it."
    I'd like to get back to your response. Please take this as positive criticism. I would revamp the beginning of that sentence. Your state of mind should be that you DO know what you want. Make your intentions look confident and be sure of yourself.

    Quote Originally Posted by Suave Kino View Post
    "Hmmm I'll say this. I'm one of those people that believes it foolish to look for something and even more foolish to overlook something special if you find it."
    From my perspective, Suave's response isn't directly complimenting the girl at all, but it's showing that he knows what he wants, and that it MIGHT be her IF she's special. Asking her to qualify, in a way. I hope this is an accurate analysis lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ConversationallySpea king View Post
    I would have said something like,

    You...

    Or, I found it, rather, she found me.

    Then put that same question back in her face!
    I think this falls into the category of putting the woman on a pedestal. If you know nothing about the woman, how will she react to you telling her that she's what you want? There's no possible way for you to know that, and jumping the gun so soon only shows desperation. Please rethink how she will view these responses!
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    Default Re: Answering the "What are you looking for" question

    From my perspective, Suave's response isn't directly complimenting the girl at all, but it's showing that he knows what he wants, and that it MIGHT be her IF she's special. Asking her to qualify, in a way. I hope this is an accurate analysis lol.

    Konman, you sir are correct. The idea is to present a challenge. I am a challenge, she needs to validate that she is potentially special. In my latest audio report, you should just listen to the girl when I say I am "die hard single" She quizzed me on this and I delivered the "special line" (even though I edited it out of the trimmed down version,) she ate it up hook line and sinker.


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