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    Default Txting an old girl from work

    So i used to work with this HB8 at work and we flirted alot and she even told one of our coworkers that she thought i was cute. I had a gf at the time so i didnt really pursue her even tho she is rly hot and has the nicest ass ive ever seen. We only used to txt alittle as she never keeps a convo going so i just stopped. Anywayyy, i figured id try to reinitiate today, as i broke up with my gf a few months ago and figured this girl would be perfect to go after. Also important to note - she gets ton of attention from guys. and girls, shes overall very popular.

    Heres the transcript of our txting this morning.

    Me: Hey I saw something that reminded me of you..
    Her: Haha what was itt?
    Me: A girl with a rly nice butt, even nicer than urs
    Her: Thats impossible though
    Me: Lol nah i've hooked up with alota girls that beat u
    Her: Woooooow thanks for making me feel special
    Me: I only make lucky girls feel special
    Her: Freakkk haha thanks
    Me: Hey maybe if you play ur cards right who knows

    Then that was it she didnt text back. B4 that she was txting back immediately she def seemed interested. So my question is, how do i get this girl? she knows shes rly high up and gets lots of attention. Should i try to txt her more often and eventually win her over with flirting? Any advice would be appreciated. Thx!

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    Default Re: Txting an old girl from work

    Wow.. yeah instead of "Lol nah i've hooked up with alota girls that beat u" you should have said something else.. Anything else. That was the turning point in the conversation, basically you were bragging about being with a lot of other girls, something that girls find very unattractive, and weird. You might of bombed this one, maybe there's a chance but I wouldn't know how to recover from that.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: Txting an old girl from work

    nah idts this girl is very open sexually. and i beg to differ. girls like hearing that you hook up with other girls. it shows social value and that other girls are interested in you

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    Default Re: Txting an old girl from work

    Apparently not since she stopped texting you. But since you seem to have it all figured out, I'm sure you can fix it.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: Txting an old girl from work

    she would of stopped txting me right wen i said that if u were right..and i also told you that she doesn't have long convos. do a better job reading dude

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    Default Re: Txting an old girl from work

    hey bro,

    doesn't matter who's right, stop f'ing bickering, we're all bros here.


    Lemme give you my 2 cts and be a bit more constructive at that...

    First off, it was obviously your last text that bombed. No smiley, no "lol", nothing. Up until that point you could've just been kidding around and it seemed like a fun and negging kind of convo, which she actually responded OK to. You also carried on the "making her feel special" thing, which I suppose in a joking context would still be all right, so good on ya up till that point.

    However, once a girl gets the feeling you're not kidding around about how lucky she'd be to be with you, and that you've been serious all this time and that you feel like you're the shit and acting like your larger than life, she will get turned off. Seems too arrogant, and as if you're doing her a favour by hooking up with her. That's a turn off, you prob wouldn't like that kind of attitude in a girl either. Unfortunately, it's also hard to undo...

    Old man rant coming up (feel free to skip):
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    Thing is, you have to BE larger than life for such a strategy to work, and even then... it has to be the right kind of girl who's seriously into you.
    So until that point in your life, be yourself more and don't act like a rapper. We often think we have to be "real men", which we see in the movies or on MTV or whatever. It's BS. Until you really find yourself, joke around with her (in a non-goofy manner), tease her without offending her, neg her, show her you have value, not by being "arrogant" in your texting (!) her about how many hot models you've been with and don't put her on a pedestal.
    Value, btw, from a girl's perspective is someone who is her equal (or more) but doesn't need to show it or brag about it. Thus, you can convey to her that you're socially popular, but not say it. They'll be able to tell if you're showing off or exaggerating anyway.
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    I'd advise you not to text her for a bit. Couple of days break in contact (4-5 days maybe more, depending on the frequency of your texting), then re-engage her with a more humble text this time round:

    "Hey [girl's name]! quick question, how's xxx from [the company you worked at] btw, think i saw him randomly on the street the other day!"

    when she writes back and potentially asks why, tell her you thought you "saw him delivering pizzas on [this or that street]!!?? "


    carry on and hint at a date (slice of pizza would be a good suggestion) or propose date and time for a slice.

    Am not a big shot in the texting department, so i'd check out "how to text a girl" section.
    Alternatively, you can wait for a few weeks, and then send her a non-arrogant text out of the blue.

    Good luck dude.


    PS
    Also, you might be focussed in on this one girl, but there're about 3,5 bn females in the world... don't worry about just one.

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    Default Re: Txting an old girl from work

    Ok, you crossed a line with the text about hooking up with lots of girls better than her. There's a line between negging and insulting someone, and you stepped over it.

    With a confident girl you want to flirt with that line, but you never want to cross it. She likely interpreted that to mean you think she's plain. You could have gone with something else that was along the same lines but a little dialed back. Something like:

    "I dunno, I've seen my fair share of pretty rockin asses "

    This way you didn't make it personal. What you said was, "lots of girls are better than you." That's an insult, you crossed the line. Admit you made a mistake, learn from it, move on.

    Other than that keys gave good advice.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Txting an old girl from work

    alright guys thanks for the advice ill keep u updated!


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