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Thread: Did I not show enough interest?

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    Default Did I not show enough interest?

    New to here as a member but I've lurked around before. Anyway may need a little steering with a situation. Sorry if I'm not up to par on PUA lingo.
    I'm usually pretty assertive and will take the reigns but a girl approached me we exchanged numbers and she showed massive interest. She text me first everyday but not wanting to ruin my mystique I kept answers short until we went on a date. Date went really well, closed with a quick make out than went home. She text me 20 minutes later thanking me and has still text me first everyday since up until 3 days ago. She expressed the day after our date that she wasnt sure if I had fun and if I was interested I just replied with a do you think I did? And kept my "mystique" so to say. I showed mild signs of interest but never said a full out " I'm interested statement ", I know better. Normally I'd of already set up a second date but its spring break and were both on vaca. So our only communication was texting which she Initiated every single time (alot of times saying how she was going to make me dinner when she got back and things like that hinting at a second date) but she hasn't said anything in three days so I'm wondering if ....
    A. She's just really busy on vacation ( unlikely since she found time other days)
    B. I didn't show enough interest and she moved on
    C. I didn't show enough interest and she thinks she's bothering me when she texts me so she's waiting for me to make a move.
    Normally not talking to a girl for a few days is normal, but it went from her showing massive massive interest everyday and me showing minimal interest to a standoff.
    So question is where do I go from here.
    Wait it out and let her text me again
    Or show a little more interest and set up a second date for this week
    I get a bit of a gut feeling that she thinks I'm not into her so maybe I went a little "too hard to get"

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    Default Re: Did I not show enough interest?

    As with anything in life you need to strive for balance. You took the disinterested ploy a little too extreme. What you want to do is reward her good behavior with positive reactions. When she goes out of her way to contact you and initiate conversation, that's when you show signs of interest. What happened is she put herself out there and got negative reactions from you, and because of that may feel no reason to try anymore. If you can get a conversation going again try to be a little more interested or you'll drive her off for sure. Good luck.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: Did I not show enough interest?

    Thanks for the response! I definately feel what your saying. I did show signs of interest just mild ones, hinting at second dates and whatnot, but she did do most of the initiating. I think she's definately looking for something a little more "concrete" from me though. I just didn't wanna ruin the spark while on spring break. Ill give her a shout tonight.

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    Default Re: Did I not show enough interest?

    3 days isn't much to gauge anything, given that she's initiated every convo so far it's not bad to initiate one yourself, just talk about what she's gonna cook you as it shows u accept the date proposal

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    Default Re: Did I not show enough interest?

    Im going to be 100% honest, and let out some sort of rant.

    The main problem is that society is so corrupted that we have to overthink everything. I'm not saying this is the case, but you are "playing a game with her". You are avoiding showing yourself, and nothing guarantees that her "3-day absence" isn't just a way to play with you.

    I absolutely hate games. To a point where I'm straightforward from start. The other day, a lady I'm seeing texted me saying she didn't trust men that did something that I do. So she's asking for trust. I told her if I could be with her that day again, I would. I didn't tell her she could trust me, I changed the topic to something that'll make her smile and that shows my raw emotions. Tricky, but I don't care.

    I'm drifting a bit, but the main idea is that you should worry about being honest. Don't play mysterious games. Be funny, but when it comes to showing your intentions be who you are. You are not gonna f*ck her unless at some point you act like you want to. Neither you are gonna get in a relationship unless you do the same.

    Don't think too much, enjoy each day with and without her, if you want to text her do that, make sure you are incisive, get the date.
    Veni, vidi, vici.


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