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    Default She Insulted Me

    Alright, so here's the lowdown:

    So I was on Facebook, just chilling and scrolling through stuff on my news feed, when I see a picture from one of my friends on either looking dorky or smart when wearing glasses, and she was wearing glasses. Finding her very attractive with glasses on, I commented:

    "Personally I don't see dorky and smart in women with glasses. I just see a fine line between sexy and not so much"

    The comment got a few likes, and she responded back with a haha. Here comes the part that the title of this post refers to. This girl that I don't know and who is apparently friends with her comments:

    "Your a d***..."

    I chuckled at this and the fact that she had no idea that I was implying that the girl in the photo was sexy. However, I then noticed from her pic that she was wearing glasses too, and she actually looked way sexier and was a potential hit. With this in mind, I proceeded to reply in this manner:

    "Oofta, so quick to rush to a summary without reading the book. I think that's going against all sorts of sayings"

    I have not gotten anything more back from the photo yet. I really don't care how this goes, because I don't know her. However, it would be nice to get a bit of critique on this and get a few questions answered on how I'm doing. For a start, was my response to the insult good? What should be my plan to move about with this lady? In the future, what should I change with what I said and how I did it?
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    Default Re: She Insulted Me

    I think your response was fine. I just think that it comes down to personal preference. My style is more like purposeful misinterpretation.

    "Excuse me. I don't feel comfortable with you talking about my down below parts. Have some class."

    or

    "Omg really? Thanks! I thought no one would notice." (Just going with it)

    Again I think your response was fine. At least you didn't explain yourself to her to try a convince her you're not a dick lol. That's falling into her frame, obviously.
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    Default Re: She Insulted Me

    Purposeful Misinterpretation? I like that. Yea, when I was responding to the comment, I didn't want to do anything that made me look like I was bumbling or groveling to her for forgiveness.

    So how should I advance with the insulter? Should I friend request her and fire up a chat with her, because no one has responded back on the photo. Or should I just wait and sit off to the side, waiting to see if she will respond back.
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    Update: the insultor deleted her comment. Should I friend request her and say something like "Hope I didn't embarrass you too bad" or something else?
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    Default Re: She Insulted Me

    I'd pull her in with sarcasm.

    "Aw and I thought we were getting acquainted. "

    Harmless flirting. Just my opinion.
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    Default Re: She Insulted Me

    Thanks Batman. I friend requested her, but didn't send her the message. Should I swap that around then? And what's the general position of messaging women that you are NOT friends with?
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    Default Re: She Insulted Me

    I don't think a friend request was necessary. I would've just sent the message. Friend request after she's "earned" it. For now she just earned a PM. The position is that you are the prize. And always assume attraction.
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    Default Re: She Insulted Me

    Sounds like a tactical diversion. 1st girl was looking for attention, she got it well from a pro(very good), now girl 2 is jealous, She posts up trying to snag some of the pro attention. Now your no longer sighted on your original target but a girl who seems to pulled your attention onto her.

    Keep em both on if they are good looking, but go with where your effort is making progress. Frankly if she cant respond to defend herself at all and just deletes her comment :\ I wouldnt be chasing after her......

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    Default Re: She Insulted Me

    Yea, I ended up never sending her the message that Batman recommended. I just saw it as not worth my time, and I got bored with the thought anyways.

    My final decision was just dumping the two of them and moving on, but in the future, if I ever see something like this again, I will make sure to keep it in mind.
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