I've seen a lot of threads round this part of the forum asking how to open girls who added you on facebook.
So I thought I would create a thread that talks about dealing with a girl who has added you, you have a few mutual friends, but you don't know her and she's basically a stranger. This doesn't just have to be about me but open to everyone.
This happened to me recently and this is how I've dealt with it so far. I think its going ok but would like to hear your thoughts if you had any, or how others have approached this situation in the past.
Right so, this strange girl who I don't know added me and then liked my profile picture, I left it a couple days before I sent her this message yesterday:
"Hey, who are you and what are you doing on my computer?! :P"
That was a line taken from a thread round here somewhere lol.
anyway it seemed to work quite well as an opener as this is her reply:
"How very abrupt :P
Your pic came up on 'people you may know' and I thought I recognised you. On closer inspection, you were not who I thought, however you seem like an interesting individual so thought I might say hello, hope that's alright? How many instruments do you play?!!"
This has given me loads I can talk about so I sent quite a long message in return. I think this works better at first with a stranger sending occasional messages rather than instant messages. I've seen other peoples conversations on here just die in instant messaging with a stranger.
Anyway just thought this method has worked quite well so far so I thought I would share it. If you're interested or feel you can offer any advice. Here's the rest of the conversation so far:
"Haha of course. I did something like that a few days ago, I thought I recognised someone and I was looking at her and we made eye contact for a few seconds except I didn't say hello, so I just looked like some weird guy staring at people..
I play drums/percussion and piano, I had to sacrifice playing guitar otherwise I'd get nothing done. Do you play anything? I'm guessing you're really into music from our mutual friends. It's weird I don't know you actually, but I don't really see those guys very often anymore."
"lol I have gone as far as waving frantically at someone, who also was not who I thought!
Awesome I am massively into music, taught myself a little guitar and piano, but unfortunately I'm better at listening to it rather than playing it! Who are your top 5 bands?
Yeah right, I expect our paths have probably crossed at some point, but I only see them every couple of months or so now. Where do you usually go out?"
I realise saying I looked a bit weird the other day was a dlv but its true and I thought it could build comfort and encourage conversation which I think it did. I'm gonna reply to this message and then hopefully start instant chatting maybe and try and seed a date into the conversation somehow.
Anyway, thanks for reading that lengthy post, speak to ya soon