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Thread: i think i messed up, need help

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    Default i think i messed up, need help

    Back story: I met a girl at a party, hit it off, talked for a long time, got her number, kissed before I left and planned a date, but I blacked out for expect for a few parts. My friends say she is awesome so of course I want to continue with her.

    Now: i asked her to come to a party with me, she couldn't but said she still wants the date. I hit her up the next day asking her to hang out, but gave no time -- she said it sounds like a plan. I got caught up in PT and forgot to let her know. 2 days later i asked her to hang out with no response

    so my question is "can I still recover and what should I do?"

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    Default Re: i think i messed up, need help

    Explain to her that you had gotten caught up in your plans. You want to see her again and give a specific meetup time and place.

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    Default Re: i think i messed up, need help

    I didn't do exactly what you said, but instead I went ahead and just started texting again. How should I be texting her since it was a k close?
    This is how it went today
    Me: So what are you up to?
    Her: at the beach, wbu? (:
    Me: trying to think of what to eat. At the beach with your phone sounds like a whole new level of dangerous
    Her: lol foreal! i need a lifeproof, but i just leave it in the car lol
    Me: smart thinking! Any suggestions on what i should have for lunch?
    Her: subway?
    Me: Awesome, ill try that. Have fun at the beach!
    Her: Thanks! (:

    Any tips on how to improve?

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    Default Re: i think i messed up, need help

    as a guy who has been in the situation a couple of times you need to fix the hole in the relation.you kissed her so definitely even if its nothing you are not in the friend zone.i guess you may hv been caught up in the challenge thing.it works but a girl with pride cannot just bend over for you like that.

    if she likes you which am sure she does you hurt her.stop texting and talk to her on phone.listen to what you were told previously before it falters.

    N.B.my pride almost cost me huge with one girl.hope you take action. if you done something before you see this you may present it.if you dun fix the bug ever then you may never have all of her.Period!!

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    Default Re: i think i messed up, need help

    Well, undoubtedly HardRock is right, I always knew rockers rocked.

    Anyway, she's obviously a big fan of yours, not the top one, but surely top 10, and from what I can see, you gave her hopes and dreams... just to take it away after.

    You hurted her and now she probably thinks you're a player who just wanted to score the net.

    Fortunately, you're not a player, at least a cold one, so you gotta be warm and gentle to her (not the wussy way).
    Apologizing isn't a great idea in many cases ("I'm sorry for not answer your call" etc), but in this case yeah, I guess that would be a good move. Also, invite her to go to the beach and then both of you have dinner.

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    Default Re: i think i messed up, need help

    I think if your text game needs work, a part of me says just call her. But another part says you need the practice. Ive been reading PUA Text guides and they work wonders like making statements instead of questions. I just got my text game good enough to get a day 2. Yeah read a texting guide and with this girl you have to act like your at home plate. You kissing her and running might have set you back. Give her a good effort your proud of and if it doesnt fall through just let her go.

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    Default Re: i think i messed up, need help

    I would just pretend like I had better things to do, and 'pencil' her in for another time.
    Quit fingerbangin' the couch Jimmy, it's not very nice...

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    Post Re: i think i messed up, need help

    @lenric, i see you Mulan

    To add to what was said about apologizing.If a few days have passed till you said this make sure you give her a good reason.that is an excuse fit cuz obviously if you know what i mean.

    "Like woah you know what the other day i was having problems with networking tried to call you but postponed till later.Then change topic and do the attraction thing.'

    Even though directly apologizing is not a bad idea.if days have past it may not be the best idea.so just give her a good reason why you wanted to but couldn't.i definately agree with len on taking her out..escalate!!


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