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    Question How to handle the silent treatment and staying non reactive?

    So in my relationship that recently ended, the girl I was seeing used the silent treatment a lot if she were mad, sometimes when she was feeling depressed she would do the same thing.

    So how do you deal with the silent treatment? I tried to talk to her, but obviously this doesn't work. I'm guessing just give it right back to them?

    She also had a tendency to get HUGELY angry at me for any criticism I had of her. Blaming almost everything on her depression and saying things like "Do you even think about how I feel?". This would usually be over text, in person she just went silent.

    Again, when a women does this or something similar should I remain unresponsive and not allow her to escalate?

    I'm getting confused between what you do when you're trying to pick a women up, and what you do when maintaining a relationship.

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    Default Re: How to handle the silent treatment and staying non reactive?

    So how do you deal with the silent treatment? I tried to talk to her, but obviously this doesn't work. I'm guessing just give it right back to them?
    obviously, the silent treatment is kindof childish. either ignore her till she starts talking or call her out on it. (though its just best to ignore her when she does it to you)

    She also had a tendency to get HUGELY angry at me for any criticism I had of her. Blaming almost everything on her depression and saying things like "Do you even think about how I feel?". This would usually be over text, in person she just went silent.
    you should realize that no one likes a critic. criticism always breeds resentment (even if its true). so in the future don't be so quick to criticize others (people in general don't like criticism) people already know whats wrong with them, and telling them won't help you much, instead, try praising them for the few things that are going good for them. especialy since your girl was going through depression, your criticism only made her feel worse about herself.
    you need to always make people feel good to be around you, and criticism makes people feel bad because of you (wich makes them not want to be around you)
    so use selective praise to bring out the best in the people around you and they will want to be around you

    i highly recomend you read the book "how to win friends and influence people" by dale carnegie
    it will help you to not be so critical of the people around you.

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    Default Re: How to handle the silent treatment and staying non reactive?

    Silent treatment should be met with silent treatment, got it.

    Yeah, that does make sense. I can understand how that would effect her. But how do you stop someone from doing things that make you unhappy, if you can't talk about it? Like I said, she gave the silent treatment a lot, which made it hard to communicate with her.

    At the moment I'm focusing on myself and my inner game more than anything. Most people I'm not like that with, but she just frustrated me immensely and the more she frustrated me, the more I criticized, the more I criticized, the worse it got. Wow, it's that simple...

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    Default Re: How to handle the silent treatment and staying non reactive?

    I had a girl that would do this to me, I would just ignore her and go about my business as usual. When she finally realized it didn't bother me and she wasn't getting anywhere with it she stopped and started talking again. If you reward negative behavior with attention, whether it be good or bad, she will continue that behavior.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: How to handle the silent treatment and staying non reactive?

    yeah.. you should always reward her good behavior with your ioi's towards her, and punish her bad behavior with your IOD's towards her.
    in the case of her giving you the silent treatment, giving her any attention for that behavior will only reinforce it. so just ignore her if she's going to ignore you


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