Your boy UrbanCowboy AKA the PoonCrusher has been gone for a minute but now he's back, so hide yo girlriends, hide yo sisters, hide yo moms, hide yo wives! WADDUP YALL? I have a great example of an OKCupid conversation that didn't go as planned but I kept my wits about me and pulled out the W with a buzzer beater and a cool head. I'm going to post almost the full text of what happened with some commentary. Girl is a 26-year old HB 7.5 or 7, pretty standard fare.
Me: *opened with variation of the M&Ms, Skittles, or strawberries opener that I wrote myself* (I won't be sharing it on here, sorry. When the original got published (not by me...someone else on another site), everyone started using it and girls caught on so I was getting blown out left and right. PM me though and I'll try to help you write something)
Her: *can't print her answer because it references the opener but it was pretty boring*
Me: Lol, I didn't realize anyone still drank that. What about ice cream, with nuts or without?
Me:At least you have good taste in something (:
Her: That would taste like cough syrup [reference back to something in the opener]
Me: Hahaha, you're a cutie. [This is usually the hook point. If they respond, you'll get the number 90% of the time.]
Me: Are you emotionally available for texting?
Her: Haha awesome. Not quite yet, the whole Internet thing has been a weird experience so I've learned to hold off on that [This rejection is the most critical point in the conversation. What she said is probably true but if I really scared her, she would have ignored me or told me to f@ck off already. The trick now is to make her feel more comfortable while keeping her attracted. Think of how you approach a stray cat you wanna adopt...you shuffle slowly, use a soothing voice and are generally non-threatening. Kinda the same idea.]
Her: Nothing personal
Me: It's never personal . So you don't do drugs, right?
[This shows her my confidence is absolute and her hesitation is but a small bump in the road on our way to Poundtown. Population: HB7]
Her: I've tried them in the past and I refuse to purchase then.
Me: Just making sure because that cough syrup comment almost made me delete your msg. [I wanna make her work for my approval so this is like a false takeaway kinda. This is also my way of testing whether she's just bored or actually enjoys my attention and wants more.]
Her: Gross are you talking about purple drank. I'm not crazy
I also hate cough syrup
Me: Yeah, I thought you were into that for a second and I was really turned off. I can't stand people who do that and Triple Cs. [A note all the stoner PUAs: never admit to doing drugs habitually even if you do until you get to know her better. It shows VERY low social value, especially if you admit it online.]
Her: What are triple c's
You're making me feel old haha
Me: Coridicin Cough and Cold lol. Some of my friends used to do them but it was too weird for me.
I feel like an old soul in a young man, hahaha. [I'm not sure why I said that. I think I didn't know what else to say so I just decided to banter a little. More banter followed. Banter is usually good because it builds rapport.]
Her: That sounds insane
That was so deep
Me: I think it's just the cough syrup talking.
Nah I'm just playing, lol.
Her: Haha you're funby
Me: Maybe you're the one who needs to slow down a little
Her: Outta control
Me: Just don't try to eat my face and we can still be friends I swear lol.
Her: But I like smoking bath salts. We're moving way too fast for you to put demands on me.
Me: You're right, we're not friends anymore. Your addictions are scaring me away lol.
Her: [She's interested. I pushed her away and although you usually want more of a pull than this, this'll do online.]
Me: I just hope you're not totally boring or I'm gonna have to be witty enough for both us,
*both of us [I probably shouldn't have said this but I was a little nervous and I needed to move the conversation so I could attempt another close]
Me: I can never tell with the squares
Me: OK so I have a job for you. Are you up for it? [She didn't reply for like 5 minutes and I freaked. You usually don't wanna send two msgs in a row like this but it's really a judgment call. Also sometimes girls don't actually know how to reply so they need a push.]
Her: What is it
Me: I need to get to bed so I'm gonna give you my personal email. Shoot me a msg and tell me a little more about yourself so I don't get bored to death in my management seminar tomorrow morning. My email is ####### on gmail. Goodnight ! [Target acquired...]
You can add me on Facebook /********, I'm not a big email fan [WEAPONS HOT, BOMBS AWAY!!! This came several minutes after her last msg but I knew I couldn't afford to f@ck-up again so I decided to wait and if she gave me something, cool. If not, onto the next. ]
A couple of final notes:
First, OKCupid and POF are the only two sites that are worth it. POF has more people on it though so you won't sarge out all the girls in your area trying to learn online game. OKCupid actually wrote a great article a while back (before they were bought out by match) about why a pay-for-play dating site cannot work.
Next, my style is aggressive. I advocate canned openers that seem spontaneous and fun, sent out en masse. You don't have to be this aggressive but in my opinion, online dating is a contact sport...the more girls you contact, the more numbers you get, etc. Guys with much better game than me will disagree with my tactics and other guys with much better game than me will agree with me. It's really a matter of preference. You can write beautiful personalized openers if you want. An opener is still just a foot in the door and everything else after that is much more important so most of the principles remain unchanged.
Last but not least, sometimes it won't matter who you are, how tight your game is...some girls will just not be into you. Everyone agrees on this. But it's especially true online. Don't keep msging like a desperate loser. I know it's hard because there are some really cute girls and maybe you're in a little slump but sending four and five msgs in a row will never help your odds. Create an online routine, test it and stick to it. More often than not, if she doesn't respond well to your routine...it's not you, it's her.
Guys, feel free to ask any questions and I'll answer to the best of my limited ability. Keep your pimp hands strong! Pooncrusher out!