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    Default When she responds to your plans with "Maybe"

    I've been texting this girl. I've been trying to follow T-Mal's excellent guide by keeping them fun and emotional. After specifically suggesting she and I get something pierced (a mutual interest) in the next few days, her response just now was "I'm not sure about this week. Maybe."

    How do you respond to this?

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    Default Re: When she responds to your plans with "Maybe"

    Alright, I would say something along the lines of "Well if you're to scared to do it I understand, how about we go see a movie instead. "
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: When she responds to your plans with "Maybe"

    Solid suggestion, I love the "too scared." I'm kind of in a delicate situation with her (she has a bf, she's indecisive about leaving him, I'm trying to keep her as an Fbuddy, she's acting aloof) and I suspect going to a movie is too date-like. I can't tell if it's a blow off or she actually just doesn't want to get something pierced. I'd like to leave the door open to doing something else with her if it's the latter, so I'm trying to think of something similar along those lines

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    Default Re: When she responds to your plans with "Maybe"

    Wow, yeah the whole boyfriend part would have been good to know lol, that kinda changes a lot. Obviously it's because she has a boyfriend, you would have to deal with that situation before you can really get anywhere. Check out the boyfriend destroyer thread on the search bar, that should help you out. As for something else to do just invite her to hang out or "kick it" or whatever you want to call it, go for a walk, window shop, something casual.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: When she responds to your plans with "Maybe"

    Yeah sorry I didn't mention that - I have a whole thread up on that whole disaster that I would've linked to but I apparently can't share URLs even to puaforums. She and I have already slept together, so I haven't been sure about BF Destroyer. Right now my issue is just getting her to agree to hang out in person - it's hard to keep escalating when she's hesitant to do anything.

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    Default Re: When she responds to your plans with "Maybe"

    If you have only slept with her once and haven't hung out since then you might be encountering buyers remorse, and since she has a boyfriend that may make it worse since she might be feeling guilty. All I have as far as advice goes is to try and keep it as casual as possible for the hang outs, and try to get the other guy out of the picture.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: When she responds to your plans with "Maybe"

    Spot on again man. We first slept together a week ago, and though we've talked since then we haven't hung out. She is way too attached to her bf (more than I anticipated, particularly because he is an serious loser even by AFC standards). I've played it as non-committal as I can, she's being similarly vague, claims she's telling the bf she "needs space" (though AFAIK they're still together)" and is telling me she "needs time" before any hookup could happen with us again. Not sure what to do. Still thanks for the advice. I'll do some buyer's remorse reading, looks like solid (and pretty relevant) stuff.


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