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    Default Changed up my texting style

    So I did some research on these forums and changed my text game. I use to be a horrible texter, but now after 3 days of research I tried it out on a girl, and it seems like I'm better. No more needy/stupid texts. The most important thing is I felt like I was leading the conversation, and felt like a boss saying whatever the hell I wanted to say. Here's the convo, let me know what you think (good or bad):

    Background: I haven't talked to this girl really since I graduated college (maybe around 8 months). We use to talk a little, but were never romantically involved in any way. I texted her for just practice purposes.

    Me: I just saw a squirrel gathering some nuts and it reminded me of you

    Her: Lol wow -_-

    Me: Yeah it's true. Probably because of your nutty personality (She didn't respond here so I sent another text 2 hours later)

    Me: What are you up to missy?

    Her: You're ridiculous

    Her: I'm visiting my great grandma

    Her: You?

    Me: Aww what a nice great grand child. I'm just eating some delicious non-vegan healthy food I made and chillin (she's vegan)

    Her: Well I hope you choke on your non vegan food

    Me: Well aren't you just adorable. You're angry because we haven't talked in awhile. I'm flattered lol

    Her: -_____-

    Her: What's up Lonnie? (my name)

    Me: Nm, I've been pretty busy lately holding down 2 jobs and school. Life is jelly though. What's up with you sour butt?

    Her: Where do you work? & my life sucks.

    Me: By day, I'm a onene at a school for kids with autism, and a donation attendant at Goodwill. By night, I stand for justice. Your life is sour? Explain.

    Her: Hey I'm a one to one too. Except I'm a one to one to a demon

    Her: That's why my life sucks

    Her: Dealing with a demon daily is hard

    Me: That's awesome how ur a one to one too! Somehow the name sour butt actually applies to you lol. Is the almighty Alannah letting a toddler take her down?

    Her: Not it doesn't, and yes, I get beat up daily. You should see all the bruises I have

    Me: Nobody lays their hands on my future wife! I'm guessing he has autism ..

    Her: I'm nobody's future wife, and I think he is autistic, but I'm sure he has some other syndrome as well

    Me: So I can't use terms like babe and sugar mama then.. This is going to be harder than I thought

    Her: Oh god make it stop (as you can see she's the type that doesn't really express positive emotion. I know her though so I know the stuff that I was saying was making her smile. So I chose to make her qualify herself in the next text)

    Me: You'd probably make a good wife, I could see things being very boring though. Plus vegan cooking. OMG the horror! Steak=win

    Her: First of all IF I were a wife I'd be extremely fun. My vegan food is good hater. Steak=clogged arteries

    Me: You are cute so that could make up for the cooking. I also am thinking about becoming a vegetarian. Tell you what, I'll sleep on it and let you know if I feel like getting married. Goodnight (I was getting tired and felt like ending the convo. I chose to take a dominate stance after it seemed like I was trying to please her throughout the whole series of text. I did this by making her qualify herself and then flipping it on her making it seem like she's not good enough to marry me. I know this was outrageous, and as a conservative girl, I knew she wouldn't respond after that (to which she didn't). She's right where I want her to be and I'll continue it tomorrow.)

    My main point in posting this though was so people could have some more examples. There are not enough examples of full conversations floating around, so I want to get more out there. I'm good at picking up girls in person, but terrible at texting. This is my foray into the texting world so please leave feedback.

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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    First off I am not going to try and force my beliefs on you or make you think a certain way but simply offer my advice. I encountered a similar situation with a HB9 I had a falling out with and texted 7 months afterwards and lost her again.

    Long story short you are still getting ioi's from her and her attraction for you is hard to deny but you are displaying too much interest.

    Again I have made the same mistakes but never play around with the term "wife, girlfriend, etc" I know this was just banter but keep in mind everything you say is getting evaluated.

    This is proven by her sh!t testing you on you being insecure about playfully calling her your future wife and her not being good enough for you. I like the qualifiying statement here though just wish it was in a non-relationship frame.

    Stop chit-chat with her right away and cut off all contact for 1 day. If she contacts you hit her back by showing less interest.

    You will have to recover from your needy behavior by not issuing an apology but displaying your indifference to your own insecurities.

    Simply put if you want this girl invite her out to a time and place for a date over text 2-3 days in advance. Then expect her to show and don't contact her after you set the date (contact her the day of to remind her but don't seek confirmation simply expect her to be there). I encourage you to handle it however you want that makes you feel confident and displays a confident male persona of non-neediness.

    Example:

    Next Text
    You: Hey you I was feeling pretty out of it last time not really sure if I was in the right head space. Maybe I will think about it and ask you out. (compliance check and qualify)

    (2-3 days in advance)
    You: Hey pet name let's meet for drinks on XXX Day @ XXX time @ XXX place. We can just have fun together, later.

    Remember don't text to chit chat only to secure dates. This is the key mistake I have been making. Women place high value on our words and the more we talk the more we screw up. Talk less and set up dates with women more and you will get less emotionally involved. Save the fun banter for the date or for when you are in a relationship to do that stuff over text.

    If you decide to text her again for chit chat please demonstrate less interest in her (not in a friend way), and try to simply see if you can get her to chase you and show interest more in you than you in her. During the course of your convo you were into her more than she was into you so try to flip the script and get her seeking your approval instead.

    But remember she is still into you in the first place since she is still responding, take that as a huge IOI and act on it by giving her IOD's and maybe she will start to get more invested and try to qualify herself. The path is yours to choose.

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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    Good stuff!

    I mix in all kinds of topics in my text convos too. Sometimes a little Fluff is gonna find it's way in, but you did great with not letting it stall out there.

    She wasn't just giving short replies... which means she was investing herself into the interaction. (always good)

    Keep it up my friend!


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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    I appreciate the feedback gents. It really is much appreciated!

    To Mackdaddy: I like your thoughts on taking a step back and going for a date in a couple of days. The only problem with that is she lives in NY, I live in Chicago lol. Instead of changing topics completely, I kinda feel like rejecting the marriage proposal and twisiting it on it's head into a joke of some sort like this.

    Text 1:
    Me: I slept on it and decided that we shouldn't get married. I see my self being very bored .. Instead, we'll start having kids ASAP (I'm not to sure about this text. It's a bit risky, and I could be pushing a little too hard. This may lead to a no response. However, it could work out wonders at the same time)

    Alternate text:
    Me: I slept on it and decided that it wouldn't work. Of course unless you ... (This is much safer, and that cliff hanger I think would guarantee a response. Also, it continues to put me in a position of dominance and forces her to qualify herself. I would probably say something stupid afterwards and then change the subject.)

    To T-Mal: This is a product of your guide bro. It changed my whole outlook on texting. I was never insecure, but that doesn't mean insecurity wasn't conveyed through my old texting ways. If we were in Africa I'd give you 10 goats and a corn field for the help lol.

    Edit: She got into contact with me first by texting me today.

    Her text: oh gosh you're ridiculous. But you should try a vegetarian diet. You'll like it.

    Imma slowly start showing less interest and trying to reverse the tables here. I'll start off by taking a couple of hours to respond.

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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    For the sake of this thread I'll post the whole convo. Just finished the convo like 10 minutes ago. Lol this is the third after it started.

    Me: I just saw a squirrel gathering some nuts and it reminded me of you

    Her: Lol wow -_-

    Me: Yeah it's true. Probably because of your nutty personality (She didn't respond here so I sent another text 2 hours later)

    Me: What are you up to missy?

    Her: You're ridiculous

    Her: I'm visiting my great grandma

    Her: You?

    Me: Aww what a nice great grand child. I'm just eating some delicious non-vegan healthy food I made and chillin (she's vegan)

    Her: Well I hope you choke on your non vegan food

    Me: Well aren't you just adorable. You're angry because we haven't talked in awhile. I'm flattered lol

    Her: -_____-

    Her: What's up Lonnie? (my name)

    Me: Nm, I've been pretty busy lately holding down 2 jobs and school. Life is jelly though. What's up with you sour butt?

    Her: Where do you work? & my life sucks.

    Me: By day, I'm a onene at a school for kids with autism, and a donation attendant at Goodwill. By night, I stand for justice. Your life is sour? Explain.

    Her: Hey I'm a one to one too. Except I'm a one to one to a demon

    Her: That's why my life sucks

    Her: Dealing with a demon daily is hard

    Me: That's awesome how ur a one to one too! Somehow the name sour butt actually applies to you lol. Is the almighty Alannah letting a toddler take her down?

    Her: Not it doesn't, and yes, I get beat up daily. You should see all the bruises I have

    Me: Nobody lays their hands on my future wife! I'm guessing he has autism ..

    Her: I'm nobody's future wife, and I think he is autistic, but I'm sure he has some other syndrome as well

    Me: So I can't use terms like babe and sugar mama then.. This is going to be harder than I thought

    Her: Oh god make it stop (as you can see she's the type that doesn't really express positive emotion. I know her though so I know the stuff that I was saying was making her smile. So I chose to make her qualify herself in the next text)

    Me: You'd probably make a good wife, I could see things being very boring though. Plus vegan cooking. OMG the horror! Steak=win

    Her: First of all IF I were a wife I'd be extremely fun. My vegan food is good hater. Steak=clogged arteries

    Me: You are cute so that could make up for the cooking. I also am thinking about becoming a vegetarian. Tell you what, I'll sleep on it and let you know if I feel like getting married. Goodnight (I was getting tired and felt like ending the convo. I chose to take a dominate stance after it seemed like I was trying to please her throughout the whole series of text. I did this by making her qualify herself and then flipping it on her making it seem like she's not good enough to marry me. I know this was outrageous, and as a conservative girl, I knew she wouldn't respond after that (to which she didn't). She's right where I want her to be and I'll continue it tomorrow.)

    Next Day:

    Her: oh gosh you're ridiculous. But you should try a vegetarian diet. You'll like it. (I decided to dial it back a little after going in strong the night before. So I started to build a little rapport)

    Me: When I reach my goals I'll look into it more. Where do you get protein as a vegan anyway. Besides nuts .. and grass lol

    Her: -_-

    Her: Ummmmm beans, tofu, nuts, grains AND PILLS

    Her: Lol jk I get my iron & calcium from pills, that I forget to drink

    Me: Lol interesting. Sounds like your not as bad off as I thought. Except for not taking your pills. One day you're going to wake up deflated lmao! (I knew she probably wouldn't get it, but I said it anyway because my friends and I have our sense of humor. I thought it was hilarious)

    Her: What do you mean deflated. I'm not a balloon!

    Me: lol failed joke on my end. I won't bother explaining. If you were a balloon you'd be of the "hot air" type. Gorgeous but full of crap lol (tried to do a little Push Pull here)

    Next day:

    Her: Yes & there goes another failed one

    Me: Tough crowd lol. Hey, it was rather interesting talking to you. We'll do this again soon sour butt. Next time, I'll have you crying with laughter. Ttyl

    Her: Suuuuuuuuuuure. Ttyl weirdo

    That's the convo in it's entirety, good or bad. I'll prolly text her again like 2-3 days. From the jump though, Imma switch it into a more 50/50 convo. Now that I built some rapport, established a few jokes. I'll start escalating things more sexually next time. This wasn't the best exchange, but the key is to catch their interest, which is what I did. I prolly won't post the next convo either. Anyway, peace out gents

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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    What do you want to do with this girl mate?

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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    No goals, just tryna build my text game. Whatever happens happens. I can't f-close because I live in Chicago, and she lives in NY. The convo was suppose to emulate how I changed my texting style. Compared to a thread I made a couple of days back. Critique would be nice though so go ahead and say what you have to.

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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    Generally I think you did good. Just leave the "oh fuck, failed joke, my bad ahahah" and tease her about not getting it.

    The "failed joke" thing feels you're not being congruent and kind of try hard.

    Anyway, good game bro

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    Default Re: Changed up my texting style

    Ty bro, I like that idea. Joke on them for not getting my jokes, that actually makes perfect sense. I normally call myself out, but no more!


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