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    Default Girl keeps going hot / cold

    So I met this HB 8 about three weeks ago and we hit it off with very heavy flirting, making out, etc... but yes, we were both fairly drunk. Got her number, and really from day one she would text me just about all day (spread out) and then I wouldn't hear from her for a couple days. She would re-open on occasion but was usually a day or so after I tried to re-initiate.

    Fast forward, we went out this past weekend and had a good time. She was smiling the whole time, still a bit flirty though more reserved and at the end, she leaned in for the kiss first. This kiss was very different that the dance floor make-out when we first met.

    Since then (3 days ago now), haven't hear a word from her. I texted once with something referencing something funny we talked about on the date and then the following night gave her a call and left a very brief VM.

    Now, I want to re-engage with a text, but I don't want to come off needy or too into her. I have some ideas, but my text game is still a work in progress. Any thoughts?

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    Default Re: Girl keeps going hot / cold

    One thing I learned, always leave a cliffhanger voicemail. Something along the lines of like, "Hey, this is (insert name), I really need your opinion on something so give me a call back. Talk to you soon." This makes the girl want to get back to you to see what you have to say. When you do talk to her next and she asks what you needed, you can something confident like, "what color shirt should I wear on our next date, I don't want to match."

    Now that that's out of the way, here's some advice. Lay off for like 2-3 days before you try to contact her again. It sounds like she's a bad texter in general, so I wouldn't put to much emphasis on whether or not she responds. Since she's not much of a texter, when you do text push for the date asap. Start with a cliffhanger to spark her interest, and then transition from there. Don't be afraid to set something up 4 or 5 texts into it.

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    Default Re: Girl keeps going hot / cold

    Freeze her for a few days then text her going straight for a meetup. Or call her for one. No goofing off, you need to get some facetime in asap. I almost made a huge mistake the other day because this girl gave me a text and ended the convo. I interpreted it as her just brushing me off (thats how it sounded in my head) Well with some excellent advice from a fellow forum member I was convinced to just try texting her again that night and just see what would happen. I texted for a meetup the next day and was straight direct. She said yes and I havent looked back. This led to multiple F closes with a HB 9-10. She still gets hot and cold on texts with me. So I freeze her out when she does that to punish her, then I go back in strong. My point...go hot cold on her!!! See how she likes it. (Push Pull) It has to be distinct though. When you are hot you go in hard and direct and just go for it! When you are cold, freeze, ignore a little bit, blow off ect. Then shell be like what the heck?! Instead of you.

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    Default Re: Girl keeps going hot / cold

    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    When you do talk to her next and she asks what you needed, you can something confident like, "what color shirt should I wear on our next date, I don't want to match."
    Thanks... my idea of what I was going to do sounds on par, but I would have done it this afternoon without this virtual support group!

    I was thinking of something like "Planning our next adventure, need your input on something..." but I really liked this idea.

    Now, I already left her one VM two nights ago and no response (nor have I texted again), still better to call than text? Truth is, I'm more comfortable on a phone anyway.

    Either way, my plan is to just try to find out her availability for the rest of the week and set something up. Might be a blessing in disguise that she doesn't text much since it's still a weak area for me.

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    Default Re: Girl keeps going hot / cold

    Yeah definitely still call. If she is interested she'll pick up or call you back. Although girls tend to be flaky, we can only assume so much. So after trying to contact someone 2-3 times without success, I assume they don't want to talk. When you do talk to her, do as you said. Find out her availability, and push for the date. Make sure you tell her about the date, don't ask. If she can't do it then set up something for another day.

    Also, play to your strengths. I'm still trying to work on my text game, but I much rather talk to someone on the phone. Therefore, I normally push for phone calls asap. I'll approach a girl and if things go well enough, and I got the number at the end, I'll say something like, "if I call will you pick up?" (confidently of course), it catches the girl off guard and let's her know that you mean business. To play off the neediness from a statement like that, I would then proceed to say something like, "If I don't get in contact with someone after a try or two, my mind just moves on." A statement like this has a ton of benefits (adds value, dominance, portrays independence, confidence, etc). Again, only say something like this if you can say it with confidence. I have gotten shit tested a couple of times saying these lines.


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