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    Default Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    Hey guys, found the forum a few days ago, and read through most of the texting stickies. Some good info there.

    Saturday night I had a couple beers and went on POF. I messaged a couple of girls. One responded back rather positively. Here's how it went

    Me: What are these benefits you speak of? Also, you kind of remind me of Scarlett Johansson. That is all. (she mentioned she offered great benefits like a good job)

    Her:I'm going to take that as a compliment because she is gorgeous but I can't stand her attitude...at least I think I'm a bit nicer lol
    And unfortunely I can't disclose the entire benefits package but I can tell you that my cooking makes men fall in love and I give amazing massages

    Me: You should take it as a compliment! But she does have an attitude, doesn't she?! LOL, Oh really?! What is your specialty? And massages? Now you are just teasing...

    Her: She definitely does lol Hmm no particular specialty, depends on who I am cooking for...I am half Italian, so my nonna has been teaching me how to cook ever since I was little, apparently it's the best way to a man's heart? Lol, And I'm not teasing, maybe you will be fortunate enough to see that I don't lie.

    Me: Okay, what are you doing on POF on a saturday night?? We should continue this conversation over a drink!

    Her: Haha, I'm hanging out with some friends at my place watching the Wichita vs Ohio state game since my buddy plays for Wichita...a drink would have been fun though, another time?

    Me: You have friends over, but you are on POF!? You must be bored! The game is almost over isn't it? How about afterwards?

    Her: I'm on my cell lol, they have no clue. Ya the game is almost over but I'm hanging out with my friends for the rest of the night. Text me sometime and we can definitely get together for a drink, xxx-xxx-xxxx.

    Me: Lol sneaky sneaky! Okay have a good night.. I'll text you for sure =) Oh, and btw my name is Rodney

    Her: Nice to meet you Rodney, I'm Stephanie

    Me: Nice to POF meet you too Stephanie. Talk soon.

    So, I waited till Monday night, 8:30ish and I texted her. I simply texted her: Stephanie? (I saw this on here actually, I though it was a not bad opener).

    She replied about an hour later, saying Lol yes...

    I was a little thrown off at this point, I was expecting a quicker response for how things went on POF on saturday. (she was replying to me in 2-5 minutes every time, and she had friends over...) So I waited about 25mins and replied back "Hey! It's Rodney, how are you??" I know I know, its not the best thing to write, but I was kind of tired and I was into a movie so she didn't have my full attention (nor should she with making me wait an hour). No reply to this text.

    So I waited two more days, and I texted her "Hey! Rachael Ray... what's cooking today?" Lol, not bad right? Well still no reply. So that's two strikes.

    I'm more confused then anything, I know the one text was lame, but seriously, no reply that quickly? I could see if it was a lame conversation, but she didn't even give it a chance! And she offered her number, I didn't even ask for it! Thoughts?

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    You waited too long. Usually once I get a girls number off POF i'll text her right away or if its later at night sometime the next day.

    Your text about rachel ray is something I would have sent first. You need to crank up the attraction, because when you wait things will go stale and people lose interest.

    just my .02

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    First off this is a very interesting topic. I use POF too not having any luck on there right now though. When I got on before (about 6 months ago) I was getting a lot of good responses.

    However as far as your current situation I think you need to re-frame it and go with the flow. You were very confident talking to her on POF but now that she is acting the way normal girls do over text you are losing some of your confidence man!

    I think you have a good thing here. She has passed a couple of compliance tests already. She hasn't rejected you yet and still deciding if she wants you (that's a good thing). First off not getting replies is normal female behavior so don't let that bother you.

    I texted this one girl 7 times with no response then called her and she wasn't even creeped out at that point about all the texting, never even came up! I still had a chance with her, so I think you still have a chance with this one until she rejects you.

    I guess you can take any route you want. But there really is only 2 purposes for texting such as meeting up and building comfort.

    You could try teasing her (this works quite well) though I have a hard time making chicks LOL doing banter. Most chicks I talk to take banter "if fun was illegal I would arrest you" the total wrong way and get offended. So in my mind your best course is to tease, flirt, be serious, and be reliable.

    I have made chicks mad with freeze outs (LOL, why?) because I froze a chick out who was into and responding quite well (why did I Freeze Out a responsive chick, man duh!). Yeah I know now to only do freeze outs on non-responsive chicks.

    Daily Text Theory
    Try to send her a daily text for a little while with something every day and do freeze out after a while if she is going cold. Take this with a grain of salt as I have a lot to learn when it comes to text game.

    EXAMPLE:

    Tease:
    Hey POFer just thinking you make a good coversationist but I have a hard time liking you
    (will likely get sh!t tested just be honest and say you are just teasing)

    Flirt:
    Well I guess you like hearing from me but I won't tell you how I feel. Don't let me get in your way of having fun.
    (try to keep frame and flirt some more)

    Serious:
    Hey I am busy doing XXX today what about you? My weekend looks XXX and I am XXX so we'll see if I can talk to you not sure.
    (a little Push Pull there, I get a lot of good responses being serious)

    Banter: (not recommended)
    You know what's funny? I just thought we should run around town
    in our PJ's!
    (I always make girls mad over text when I try to do banter, maybe after hooking up you could do it though)

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    She may be sampling guys right now and is keeping doors open until she starts to narrow down her list of possibilities.

    Women act coquettish in the Spring and snobbish from all the attention they'll get from men. They'll think they're the sh*t.

    They start getting desparate at summer's end. Not many women want to be alone during the fall/winter holidays - our society views it as failure.

    Don't hang all your hopes on one hit, keep fishing 'cause the fish are biting. Yeppers, it's open season!
    Carpe diem!

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    Thanks for the input guys. I will definitely keep on fishing in the meantime (always do).

    I'm thinking I'm going to text her back one more time, I'm just not sure if I should do it soon, or wait a week. I'm just gonna jump right to the meet up, since that's what worked the first time.

    Something along the lines of -
    Look at you, quite the little conversationalist! I'll let it slide this time, since you will be cooking me dinner this weekend. Say saturday night? 7:03 pm works for me

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    Quote Originally Posted by thegdman View Post
    Thanks for the input guys. I will definitely keep on fishing in the meantime (always do).

    I'm thinking I'm going to text her back one more time, I'm just not sure if I should do it soon, or wait a week. I'm just gonna jump right to the meet up, since that's what worked the first time.

    Something along the lines of -
    Look at you, quite the little conversationalist! I'll let it slide this time, since you will be cooking me dinner this weekend. Say saturday night? 7:03 pm works for me
    Sounds good to me, I like the way you worded that.

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    Hey guys dont mean to hijack this thread but a girl opened to me on pof and I wanted to know what I did wrong.

    My first impression was perhaps she is too good to be true since she has attractive and wanted something casual. But here is the text she sent me

    Her: heyy (her pictures were atrached)

    Me: Hi?

    2 min later I texted back

    Me: if I didnt know any better, you would win in a modelling contest but I would win in a ufc contest judging by your name (athletic girl18)

    Her: haha you think so?

    Me: only bruce buffer can decide the outcome but i promise it will be an interesting matchup for sure! What are you up to right now? Is pof that bumpin right now? (1230 am)

    Her: it really is lol

    Me : haha I can believe that, I mean look at those jeans (refering to one picture of her stretching her legs with her jeans) they need to invent a size below skinny lulz

    Dead radio silence, I cant believe I blew that when she opened ME ; (

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    you were writing to long of txts. make them short so then she will have to respond longer and therefore be more invested

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    Well it kinda feels you negged her without reason.
    Also, the other reply seems a little pushy.

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    Default Re: Help texting girl from POF - what happened?

    damn how would you guys handled it? you guys have any examples?


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