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    Default Mixed signals, or nothing to worry about?

    Met this girl on pof. We clicked instantly as we're two Americans living in a small town in England. Sent a few messages back and forth that were paragraphs long until she gave me her number (I didn't even ask) and said it'd be better to reach her there.

    A couple texts back and forth and I fixed a date. Date goes well, talked for about 2 hours until I said I had to go. I told her we should have dinner the following week, but that I might be busy. Her response was "yeah, that would be nice, let me know what day works for you. I'm free Monday to thursday" (ie everyday, just waiting for me). At the end of the date I went in for a respectable kiss on the cheek but she wanted a proper one. She texted me when she got home thanking me for the night and saying she had a great time. All sounds good, right?

    So over the weekend, I send her a couple texts asking her how its going and she responds. When I send her another one asking her out for dinner, she stops responding. 3 days pass, and I send her a "hey, my favorite drug dealer (she's a pharmacist) has gone all m.i.a. on me. Call me back" text. She responds well, apologizing, and ends up calling me last night. We have a good chat and she says she's out of town this weekend, but to let her know when i'm free next week so we can have dinner.

    Reading over this, I actually don't really see a problem. But I get mixed signals in that she doesn't initiate texts, doesnt always respond to texts, or usually takes a day to respond. Maybe she read some cosmo article that tells her to wait "x hours" before replying to a guy, as she seems pretty into me. Or maybe she sucks at responding to texts, but I see her on Whatsapp quite alot, so i know she checks her phone.

    Point is, I wouldnt mind asking her to be my gf after a few more dates, but how do I make her stop playing the waiting game. Or how do I get her to think about me more so that she remembers to reply to my texts or initiate. She still checks her pof account so she's probably still talking to other guys/potentially setting up dates with them. I'm doing the same with girls on there just to prevent one-itis from setting in. But how do I get her to focus on me and stop fishing?

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, or nothing to worry about?

    You have to create interest by making your texts more fun that anyone else who may be texting her & wanting to go out with her.

    Flirt more, be interesting, build more curiosity.

    Sometimes people are just busy, so a delayed response is expected at times.
    & other times girls will wait for you to make a move... so don't be afraid of initiating & sending the first text.


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    Default Re: Mixed signals, or nothing to worry about?

    So i messaged her tuesday morning with a fun text and said we should grab dinner Thursday night (tonight). She responded 12 hours later that night saying thursday was good and we exchanged a few texts back and forth.

    Thursday arrives and I message her 30 mins before I'm supposed to pick her up, asking where abouts she lives. She then responds with a looong message about how she's behind on work and has to go to the library etc. Asks if we can "reschedule maybe next week sometime if you're free?" and says "sorry" twice in the message. But wow, flakes on me 25 mins before the date and only after i message her first?!

    I respond with "hey, i had a really good time with you the other week and really want us to get to know each other better. But if you dont feel the same way, let me know so i'm not wasting my time." She's read it but hasn't responded, though its been less than an hour.

    Was that the right thing to do or do i need to send something else after a couple days if she doesnt respond?

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, or nothing to worry about?

    To update on this, we ended up talking on the phone last Friday, where she apologizes again for bailing on me. She was going away for the weekend so she suggested we could maybe meet up on Sunday or as she said in her text, the following week if i'm free.

    Well sunday came and went and I didnt hear a thing from her (not that it mattered, i was busy anyways). Monday morning I send her a text teasing her about something she said she was doing over the weekend, and said we should try dinner again Tuesday night. Its now Friday and still no word from her.

    I've deleted her number, as she's obviously a write-off and I have another date this Sunday so its not the end of the world. But where the heck did this go wrong? She kisses me, agrees to a second date, apologizes profusely for flaking on me, suggests we meet up another day, and then does a 180 and stops replying. It doesnt make sense and is bugging me. I assume she's started seeing someone else or I messed up by sending that text telling her not to waste my time.

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, or nothing to worry about?

    Neediness man.

    Getting to know each other is repellant to women. You need to read specialist directory on here. Never tell a woman that. Especially one you havent known very long.

    Also stop with the dinner requests. Be more creative and fun in your date ideas. Notice how she is free Mon to Thurs? Why not weekends? Because you are a NICE guy who she wants to see when she isnt doing anything important. And a good first date does not mean attraction.

    Do me a favor... keep her number (if u deleted her as a contact it may still be in her txt messages). Save it. Dont respond to any texts from her. Do not contact her at all. Read about getting your ex back on other threads. Similar approach needed.
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    Default Re: Mixed signals, or nothing to worry about?

    Yeah I can see I rushed things by constantly bugging her for dates instead of just being natural. I guess i felt i had to rush and get a second date since so much time passed since date one.

    To be fair, I never asked her to meet up on weekends. In the two weeks after the first date, one weekend was easter and I was out of town, the other weekend she and her friends went away on some trip. So when she said she was free mon-thurs, i took it as a sign that she'd see me any day.

    I think I lost her when i told her not to waste my time, and showed that it got to me. To be fair if she had flaked but given me some notice, I would have brushed her off and done a Freeze-Out. But the fact she waited 30 mins before the date to bail really ticked me off and was rude.

    That being said, I dont get why you want me to use "get her back" techniques. Its been a week and a half and she hasn't text me and it doesnt look like she will. Plus why would I want anything to do with someone that lacks basic manners.

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, or nothing to worry about?

    Get her back is more about getting your own mind back on track.

    Its not that u want her back. Its how to deal with rejection and possibly get her to like u later (but thats not the only point)
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