Met this girl on pof. We clicked instantly as we're two Americans living in a small town in England. Sent a few messages back and forth that were paragraphs long until she gave me her number (I didn't even ask) and said it'd be better to reach her there.
A couple texts back and forth and I fixed a date. Date goes well, talked for about 2 hours until I said I had to go. I told her we should have dinner the following week, but that I might be busy. Her response was "yeah, that would be nice, let me know what day works for you. I'm free Monday to thursday" (ie everyday, just waiting for me). At the end of the date I went in for a respectable kiss on the cheek but she wanted a proper one. She texted me when she got home thanking me for the night and saying she had a great time. All sounds good, right?
So over the weekend, I send her a couple texts asking her how its going and she responds. When I send her another one asking her out for dinner, she stops responding. 3 days pass, and I send her a "hey, my favorite drug dealer (she's a pharmacist) has gone all m.i.a. on me. Call me back" text. She responds well, apologizing, and ends up calling me last night. We have a good chat and she says she's out of town this weekend, but to let her know when i'm free next week so we can have dinner.
Reading over this, I actually don't really see a problem. But I get mixed signals in that she doesn't initiate texts, doesnt always respond to texts, or usually takes a day to respond. Maybe she read some cosmo article that tells her to wait "x hours" before replying to a guy, as she seems pretty into me. Or maybe she sucks at responding to texts, but I see her on Whatsapp quite alot, so i know she checks her phone.
Point is, I wouldnt mind asking her to be my gf after a few more dates, but how do I make her stop playing the waiting game. Or how do I get her to think about me more so that she remembers to reply to my texts or initiate. She still checks her pof account so she's probably still talking to other guys/potentially setting up dates with them. I'm doing the same with girls on there just to prevent one-itis from setting in. But how do I get her to focus on me and stop fishing?