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    Ddakota is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default need help escalating

    met a girl and we started texting alot over the last few day. she's not a very big partier, maybe a bit on the shy proper side. Been answering me pretty enthusiastically no boring one word responses or anything. but all the talk has been boring personal stuff. what are some good topics to bring up that aren't to forward but will help with moving away from the boring banter?

    thanks guys

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    Default Re: need help escalating

    Well the first topic is stop texting her that much. Second, stop texting about personal stuff. In the early stages of seduction, you shouldn't give a fuck about "personal stuff".
    Tease her. Tease her. Tease her. Flirt. Concentrate only on that.

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    Default Re: need help escalating

    got together for a coffee and sat around talking, no awkward silences or anything conversation flowed very well and before we knew it we were sitting at the same table 4 and a half hours later. I'd take that as a somewhat good sign.

    but still same problem I know I'm not moving forward enough.
    I guess I should mention the is more leading towards a relationship not just hooking up.

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    Default Re: need help escalating

    Another update
    She's been texting with me nonstop and we've been have good fun conversations but still nothing very sexual.
    She came over to my place to hangout and watch tv, it's a 45 minute drive so she's interested in me. We talked and laughed at the shows we were watching alot, I had my arms around her cuddleing and holding hands and stuff, but i didn't know how to escalate up to a kiss. I really suck and think I need to get on this soon because this was the third time we've hungout now. Any advice? I'm thinking next time I'll just have to man up and go for it.

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    Default Re: need help escalating

    Manning up and going for it is basically the only way to do it, I think.

    If you start doubting while you're escalating towards the kiss, think like this;

    She's just another human being, she's cuddling with you, she holds your hand, she drives a farking 45 minutes to spend time with you, she's OBVIOUSLY interested in you.
    Try to anticipate her thoughts, and keep an eye on her body language. Does she keep her arms infront of her chest, or does she keep her feet/legs crossed? (Defensive positions) Then try to open her up.

    Maybe an expert can give you more help, these are just an Aspiring PUA's thoughts

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    Default Re: need help escalating

    I think I'll be able to handle it, planning to hang out on the weekend, I'll be just fine. Was just hoping for a few pointers. Thanks for pointing out the positives, should help keep me confident.
    What do you usually do to open up a girl with legs and arms crossed, or if she seems defensive?

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    Default Re: need help escalating

    Give this thread a look: -----> "How to escalate"

    It's geared towards text/email/messaging, but completely applicable in person as well.


    The key to getting a girl to drop her defenses & loosen up, is to make her laugh & have fun.

    You have to build SOME comfort as well as do a lot of flirting. (Flirting = fun... FUN is the ultimate attraction switch & b!tch shield eliminator).


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