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    Default Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I said

    So theres this chick I number closed the other day (went direct after connecting with her on a couple things) and we made plans to hang out this friday. I texted her today and we texted back and forth for a minute before brought up the plans for friday but she told me she was gonnna basically go out and do something else that night. I suggested a different time earlier in the week to hang out and asked when she was free, to which she told me she had most afternoons. Heres the point:

    I told her I felt like hanging out in the evening, which isnt a problem for me but after she asked me what I wanted to do and I gave her a couple options (go watch a taiko drumming concert or get food and walk around looking at pretty lights), she didnt text me back. She could be busy, but Ive heard that girls tend to associate nighttime with sex, so Im wondering if I might have freaked her out. She probably text me back tomorrow, but Im kind of curious to know what you guys thought of this possible theory and what I should do if she doesnt text back.


    Also, I considered calling her out on the fact that we made plans for friday and she made other plans instead. Thought it would be a good move, but maybe not when we're getting plans together. It dosent really matter to me if we end up hanging out anyway, but I wonder if it would be a good thing to do.

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    I told her I felt like hanging out in the evening, which isnt a problem for me but after she asked me what I wanted to do and I gave her a couple options (go watch a taiko drumming concert or get food and walk around looking at pretty lights), she didnt text me back.

    Sounds boring dude in my opinion she associated those activities with being and AFC guy and looking for a relationship. You should of suggested that you play pool and do whiskey shots or something.

    Second you let her control the situation by changing what you planned originally. You should of told her this is what you want to do and if she didn't want to go along with it you do it anyway without her (not decisive). But she saw that she could control the situation and you so she is contemplating of slotting you into the friendzone.

    My suggestion is to take a stand, make decisions and stick with it and don't tolerate her BS. If she still trying to give you a hard time just move on. Also read some of the articles and posts on this site about game and being alpha.

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    Yea dude, I think you might be right. I realized after I sent it that the taiko drumming was a bad idea and the second option wasnt good either, and it probably looked indecisive. My usual MO is "hey lets get some drinks, i'll be at x" but for some reason I felt like getting creative.

    You think I could redirect this thing still? Saying "f**k it, those ideas are lame. just meet me at the bar" seems like i'd be second guessing more. At least its assertive tho.

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    Double post. Could a mod delete this? Thought the "post reply" button was the one that posted your reply.

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    So I went with the "hey those ideas were lame, just meet me at the bar at 9. Pool and whiskey." and right after she texted me back "hey, i've been preoccupied. I dont drink often (didnt seem like the type, why i didnt suggest it first) but if I'm in town I'll see you for pool!".

    I feel this is a step backwards because at first we were making plans for thurs, and now she says "if im in town". If she flakes, (which she probably will) I'll try to re-engage a couple days later and banter for a minute (good banter) then set-up another meet up with a casual activity. Sounds solid? Any thing else I can do?

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    I just thought of something. I have flaked on girls so many times cause I found something better to do... In my eyes.

    But I am alwys able to reschedule another time... I typically make myself the fun guy immediately. I show a girl off the bat that I'm fun and exciting and what girl doesn't want fun and excitement.

    As lame as it may sound, bowling or pool are actually fun things to do w. girl... I don't mention drinks typically to a girl and if I do it's because I met her at a bar and she had drinks already there. Some girls do associate you asking her out for drinks and "he's trying to get me drunk". Not all, but some do.

    You have to be in control and make her want that hang out session.

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr8Hyde6 View Post
    I just thought of something. I have flaked on girls so many times cause I found something better to do... In my eyes.

    But I am alwys able to reschedule another time... I typically make myself the fun guy immediately. I show a girl off the bat that I'm fun and exciting and what girl doesn't want fun and excitement.

    As lame as it may sound, bowling or pool are actually fun things to do w. girl... I don't mention drinks typically to a girl and if I do it's because I met her at a bar and she had drinks already there. Some girls do associate you asking her out for drinks and "he's trying to get me drunk". Not all, but some do.

    You have to be in control and make her want that hang out session.

    So you're saying I should flake on her and reschedule for another time? And before I reschedule, basically throw in some fun banter and frame control?

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    Well she already flaked on u so not sure if u can flake on her... I'd just go for another hang out but mention something fun.

    I wouldn't propose flaking on girls as a method of game. It works sometimes and if ur good, but that's more of an off the bat kind of thing. But again, it's tricky and not easily done.

    Jut propose another hang out, but insist on fun... I like sending girls texts like, "me, u, (insert name of a place)... Fun time. Friday night, be there" .... That's a generic text but it all depends on the girl and since I don't know her, I can't really say what she would like. But In general, girls like a more direct man when it comes to making plans. They want 2 things ... 1) a fun guy, and 2) a guy to make the initiative and directive

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    Default Re: Girl didn't text me back after day2 plans - busy or was it something I

    Yea we were originally going to go swing dancing but I dont know how itd go if I kept suggesting the same thing. I dont know if thats generally a good thing or if its good to just mix it up and come back to that idea later.


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