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    Default Girl ask me to wait till summer

    So I met this girl and we dated for about 3 weeks but then all of a sudden she starts growing distant. ex. Not replying to my text or replying with very short messages.

    She cancels a date on me then the next time I ask her out she responds she is really busy lately but we definitely need to meet up again. But the rest of the week its more of the same . I text once she replies I reply and then nothing. I do a mini Freeze Out every time she doesn't reply so anywhere from 2 to 5 days. This has gone on for about 2 weeks and I decided to go with a hail mary text

    "Alright... so maybe I should be taking the silent treatment as a hint but for what its worth I thought you where a awesome girl"

    Her reply
    "I am sorry I made you feel that way. I have just been really focused. its just bad timing. I do appreciate everything and the fact that we have gotten to know each other don't take it personally silly, the next few months are extremely busy for me I'm sure I will let you know as soon as my time frees up in the summer"

    as for the reason she is busy is because she is taking her law school entrance exam(LSAT) in june.

    I am not sure how to reply to this. For all I know I am a safety net? although I know studying for her exam is very important for her is it a good enough excuse to put me on the back burner?(she literally started to fade 2 days after a great night)

    Any suggestions reply(or mentality to maintain) to play this off as best as possible? Should I be pushing to at least meet up once or twice while she is bunkering down for her exam?

    EDIT: My thoughts for a reply
    I'll try to wait for you but I am pretty old I might not be around when you are finally free. (I am 27 and she is 24 and we usually joke about how I am a old man)

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    Default Re: Girl ask me to wait till summer

    Quote Originally Posted by Joey1141 View Post
    "Alright... so maybe I should be taking the silent treatment as a hint but for what its worth I thought you where a awesome girl"
    This was a very bad idea on your part. This message is basically begging to her and telling her that you need her. This is AFC, and all it does is make you look bad. Your best bet would have actually been to friend zone her and beat her to the punch before she did it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Joey1141 View Post
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    "I am sorry I made you feel that way. I have just been really focused. its just bad timing. I do appreciate everything and the fact that we have gotten to know each other don't take it personally silly, the next few months are extremely busy for me I'm sure I will let you know as soon as my time frees up in the summer"
    This message is her way of blowing you off for good. You failed to build up attraction with her somewhere along the line, you came off as needy after the fact, and now she's just looking to get you off her back. I wouldn't even respond to this text message. In fact, you should just delete her number right now.

    I also don't see any reason why you should stick around for her. Waiting two months just so you can try to get back up with her is an incredibly bad idea. This is just extremely needy, and no girl wants a needy guy. I would just leave her for good and move on with your life.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Girl ask me to wait till summer

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    This was a very bad idea on your part. This message is basically begging to her and telling her that you need her. This is AFC, and all it does is make you look bad. Your best bet would have actually been to friend zone her and beat her to the punch before she did it.



    This message is her way of blowing you off for good. You failed to build up attraction with her somewhere along the line, you came off as needy after the fact, and now she's just looking to get you off her back. I wouldn't even respond to this text message. In fact, you should just delete her number right now.

    I also don't see any reason why you should stick around for her. Waiting two months just so you can try to get back up with her is an incredibly bad idea. This is just extremely needy, and no girl wants a needy guy. I would just leave her for good and move on with your life.
    Its probably the AFC in me but I thought we got along really well. But I do know what you mean... waiting till June just for a maybe at best is dumb. We have some mutual friends though and I might bump into her again at some point down the line.

    Would you think it would be ok if I just replied along the lines of "lets just be friends for now and see what happens in the future? " then just see other girls and hope to rekindle it later if i haven't met anyone else?

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    Default Re: Girl ask me to wait till summer

    I wouldn't even talk to her at all. She's throwing you onto the backburner for two months. Don't be her puppy and wait obediently for her. Show her that you're a man who does not depend on her and need her. Move on, don't talk to her, and call that the end of the story.

    When you do happen to be in the same area as her friends, show to her that you're doing amazing right now. Show her that you have exciting things going on in your life that she is not a part of. If she does shockingly turn around and come back to you, don't give her an easy time. Make her try to earn your admiration and respect back.

    You should never play into the palm of her hand. Always force her on the defensive and keep the ball in your own court.
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    Default Re: Girl ask me to wait till summer

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    I wouldn't even talk to her at all. She's throwing you onto the backburner for two months. Don't be her puppy and wait obediently for her. Show her that you're a man who does not depend on her and need her. Move on, don't talk to her, and call that the end of the story.

    When you do happen to be in the same area as her friends, show to her that you're doing amazing right now. Show her that you have exciting things going on in your life that she is not a part of. If she does shockingly turn around and come back to you, don't give her an easy time. Make her try to earn your admiration and respect back.

    You should never play into the palm of her hand. Always force her on the defensive and keep the ball in your own court.

    haha funny enough ...not replying to her is easier that coming up with something that makes me look good and probably will get the same message across. I guess I will have to go with that.

    Im gonna write her number on a piece of paper and then delete it from my phone. Its not completely letting go but I think its the best I can do.

    Thanks!


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