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Thread: Texting about 2nd date, and then no contact?

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    Default Texting about 2nd date, and then no contact?

    I have been texting a girl back and forth. We met last Wednesday (April 10th) for a first date, and it went pretty well. We were going to meet this last Wednesday, April 17th, but Tuesday she canceled.

    I texted her Tuesday and said:
    "Hey giggles"
    HER: "Hey you! I'm in class all day blahhh ;("
    ME: "Just wait. Tomorrow night things are going to get even better."
    HER: Good news for me but bad news for you.. I got invited to a private poetry reading, etc............ Will you be around next week or anything?"

    After more chatter about another day at the end she texted back: "Thursday night I'm meeting someone lol. This is impossible!"

    This all took place on Tuesday afternoon. After that I didn't reply.

    Thursday morning at 9:50 I texted her saying:
    "So how did last night go?" I got no response. So I called her at 3:40 pm, she didn't pick up. So I texted her two minutes later and said
    "Hey giggles. Next Wednesday is perfect!!"

    And that is where we are right now.

    What do I do now? Should I flirt and come up with another nick name? I gave her the nickname Giggle Goose last week, and she liked that. Now I changed it to just Giggles.

    I know I have to wait a couple days at the very least, but what do I do now? I haven't heard back from her yet. It seems like the mood of things did a complete 180 turn.

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    Default Re: Texting about 2nd date, and then no contact?

    This is pretty clear cut. She decided to do something else that she felt was more fun. So the simple answer is....you need more attraction.

    The other thing is that you rewarded her behavior by asking how her night went. The night that she cancelled on you.....you asked how did it go?........ Sorry man, but that's AFC. I wouldn't have even brought it up. And fishing for a future date is making you look worse in her eyes. Possibly even needy.

    Focus on building more attraction with her. For now you have to rely on text game. There's plenty of stuff on here and the internet for that. Just remember......attrac tion. Don't set up any meet ups right now.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Texting about 2nd date, and then no contact?

    Totally agree with Batman! she's cancelled twice don't just keep throwing out invites it tells her that shes more valuable and she can treat you how she likes.

    AND don't call then text straight away like that, you're looking desperate.

    As Batman says you need to have built more attraction and this wouldn't have happened. I had a girl flake on me this week - for a genuine reason (at least I think, work) - but because I had the attraction built her response was very different.

    "hey I'm sooo sorry but I'm gonna have to cancel as I've gotta stay late at work. Annoyed as I was really looking forward to seeing you! Can we do tomorrow or at the weekend?"

    notice how 1) her apology was sincere your girl's was kind of a brush of 'good for me bad for you' (honestly if a girl said that to me I'd tell her to go fuck herself) and 2) how she offered a new date.

    she's from Pof so this is just from text game. If a girl flakes or cancels do immediately offer a new date, wait a while and let her sweat it out, let her start to think she's lost you.

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    Default Re: Texting about 2nd date, and then no contact?

    Thanks for the help. I am an AFC though :'( . But I will see what I can do.

    When she says "Hey You" that is an ioi, right?

    Should I try something like "Hey you... Can you keep a secret?" or "Quick! Quick! Beer or wine? Beer or wine???"

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    Default Re: Texting about 2nd date, and then no contact?

    Quote Originally Posted by Abie23 View Post
    Thanks for the help. I am an AFC though :'( . But I will see what I can do.

    When she says "Hey You" that is an ioi, right?

    Should I try something like "Hey you... Can you keep a secret?" or "Quick! Quick! Beer or wine? Beer or wine???"
    "Hey You" is usually not an IOI.

    Stop bombarding her with calls/texts.At this point you have lowered your value to that of a cockroach,no offense.

    Don't contact her at all,just stop.You're the prize,dude,keep interacting with other girls,until/if she makes a move,build more attraction if she does.You don't want to be the guy she's laughing at with her friends...

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    Default Re: Texting about 2nd date, and then no contact?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ra1d View Post
    "Hey You" is usually not an ioi.

    Stop bombarding her with calls/texts.At this point you have lowered your value to that of a cockroach,no offense.

    Don't contact her at all,just stop.You're the prize,dude,keep interacting with other girls,until/if she makes a move,build more attraction if she does.You don't want to be the guy she's laughing at with her friends...
    SHEESH, what a grouch!!

    As for calling and texting, I have not contacted her lately and I don't intend on doing so any time soon.


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