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Thread: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

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    Default Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    After getting nude pics, she still feels "apprehensive".

    "I've been hurt pretty recently and im just scared."

    She's worried she might be setting herself up for another fall.

    How do I remain alpha while building more comfort in this resistant phase?

    So far I've just been using clever lines like "I'm sure a date with a cute guy like me will remove any doubts in your mind "
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    Default Re: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    Similar to what you would say in LMR situations, preferably along the lines of, "Hey, don't worry. I understand - we'll stay in your comfort zone." In this case, you might want to rephrase it a bit to: "...we'll take things slowly and at your pace."
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    just spend more time in comfort, and keep building compliance/comfort/rapport, any time that she is hesitant just reassure her that everything will be alright and that you don't want to hurt her.

    be delicate and don't do anything to hurt her feelings any more than you have to. (especialy be extremely delicate if you decide to break up with her, you don't want to ruin her for any future lovers.)

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    Default Re: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    Quote Originally Posted by konman View Post
    After getting nude pics, she still feels "apprehensive".

    "I've been hurt pretty recently and im just scared."

    She's worried she might be setting herself up for another fall.
    Sounds like a sh!t test to me man. She's making excuses on why things can't move forward and she's not in comfort with you yet. She might think you are a player like her past.

    Whatever you want to say to her is fine by me. I personally might recommend a pre-warned Freeze Out since she is trying to lower your value. Following the freeze out of no more than like 1 week I would follow up with a comment that could raise your value like a Push Pull or a playful neg about her sh!t testing you.

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    Default Re: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    Things are going VERY well despite this small obstacle. I think Freezing Her Out would only do more damage. I'd be the same guy she has grown to hate.

    I assured her we would take it slow and she'll feel comfortable. She responded with a sudden change of heart for plans tonight

    Drinks it is!

    Considering we've already exchanged some pretty racy picture, this was a shock to me. I don't see how a girl can say "I'm worried about this moving too fast, but here's a picture of me naked"
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    Default Re: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    I knew this was a 50% but it didn't go in my favour. Her next message concluded that she was at home and not feeling going anywhere.

    Ten minutes later another text about how she's snuggled up in her robe and some weed, "this is life lol"

    I haven't responded yet. I'm going to freeze her out for a few days. Not acceptable.
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    Default Re: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    Sounds like she is sending you mixed signals bro. This happens to me a lot. Maybe you could neg her on it after the Freeze Out. I got a girl doing the same song and dance right now. Appears interested then just goes Hot & Cold.

    Putting her on a freeze out. Freezing Her Out for 2-3 days then going to neg her on it saying she is just playing hard to get.

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    Default Re: Girl seems very hesitant - hurt in past

    hate the hot and cold aspect. it happens even after you get the lay.

    i guess freeze outs will help maintain attraction and mystery.


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